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beanSenior Contributor
With all that is going wrong in my life and the major struggles I’m finding myself wanting so self harm. I have been self harm free for a while and I swear it’s due to my meds that I am now coming off of it’s like they took the urges away as well as keeping me some what stable.
I don’t want to ruin my self harm free run but the urges to are winning and I’m so wanting to.
Does anyone else understand my screwed up mind?
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MulgajaneSenior Contributor
I understand @bean
Can I help?
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beanSenior Contributor
I’m not sure @Mulgajane
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MulgajaneSenior Contributor
I used to self harm so I understand the urge and the relief and the guilt and the shame afterwards.
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Unknown userMember
Hey @bean, I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling today. Well done on the self harm free stretch, I imagine that was quite a challenge. It sounds like you might have been using some other strategies for managing difficult thoughts and emotions during that time. Can you remember what they were? I understand that the medication might have kept some of those thoughts at bay, but I wonder if there was some input from you as well?
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jovialCasual Contributor
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beanSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
My strategies of coping in the past were holding onto ice or placing it on a part of my body I wanted to self harm on, drawing on my skin with markers or having hair ties on my wrist and flicking them over and over.
These things that have worked in the past just don't seem to be affective lately, and the more I'm trying not too cave in the more intense it is making them feeling of needing too.
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beanSenior Contributor
Hi @jovial
I honestly have no idea, but with my anxiety levels at an all time highI doubt I could get myself there if there were such a thing near me
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
From what I gather it is a balancing act ... keeping the dose high enough to reduce urges and low enough to live a life. I have gone up and down over the years in my attempt to manage it. Maybe slow down your med reduction ...? with supervision.
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beanSenior Contributor
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Unknown userMember
Hi @bean,
It's great to hear that you have so many strategies you can turn to when you are battling with self-harm urges. I'm sorry that these strategies have not been as helpful lately.
Perhaps, you could try some of the different self-help strategies listed, here, or you could try some self-help strategies you have thought of trying but have not had the opportunity to try? How does this sound to you?
I understand it can be incredibly overwhelming when all the strategies you usually use don't seem to be working and it can leave you feeling desperate to find something that will help you prevent yourself from self-harming. I really hope that either continued use of your past self-help strategies helps you, or that some new strategies that you have not yet tried will help you. If you are really struggling and are at risk of self-harming, please contact crisis or emergency services (000).
Take care of yourself,
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