BeautifuldayContributor
When your loved ones refuse help
So here is my story.
I introduced myself a few days ago and wanted to participate in Tuesday's discussion.
I have been hoping against hope that my inlaws would accept some help at home, especially as they are elderly have clearly defined rules about what they do as far as gender based tasks around the home. My father in law doesn't know how to do anything in the kitchen, my mother in law is struggling with crippling arthritis in her hands and feet. A few days ago something suddenly changed and she dropped a tray of soup, fell out of bed while trying to rise to go to the toilet at night, and was generally confused. She refused to see a doctor or go to hospital, and this morning my daughter (who is a nurse) met me at their house and we found her in bed unable to get up so we called an ambulance and she was taken to hospital. I stayed with FIL all day cooked him some meals and took him to see his wife, but I came home to sleep as he refuses to have any heating on; I am racked with guilt but also exhausted. There must always be a crisis musn't there if they don't want help??
See how tomorrow pans out. Glad I had somewhere to type this. Back to bed now.
