Cindy_MaurinCasual Contributor
My story
I'm new to this forum and would like to share my story. I have just been diagnosed with PND (second child and second diagnosis) and Dr has prescribed anti depressant medication. I think I've had some degree of depression and or anxiety my whole adult life. This time I would like to see a counsellor as well as my husband and I are having difficulties. The more I think about it the more I think he too has had PND and is still struggling. His personality has completely changed. The kind caring man I fell in love with years ago has become withdrawn and angry with everyone. Compounding the situation he smokes weed every day. He has cut off friends and family, is highly critical of everyone and it's "everyone elses fault".
He is carrying a lot of anger towards his brother who was a long term heroin user but is now well and clean. It's a burden that he carries though with the effect it had on the family for those years. A lot of his anger is due to the lack of support from everyone when he was diagnosed with depression about 5 years ago. He has only just started working again after being out of work for two years.
I know I haven't been the best wife to him but I was also dealing with my dads three bouts of cancer and then his death.
We had an argument recently where I tried to open up the conversation and I was told he's not interested in me or anyone and that I'm selfish, a poor communicator and always have been.
I'm pretty upset at how things have ended up. He is quite stubborn and has made me feel this is up to me to fix/change. His family are worried about him. I don't want this to be the way things are, it's affecting my relationships with everyone.
