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TattoonurseCasual Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
@Tattoonurse @Former-Member,
My hand is up too. I confess I went about three weeks without a shower when I was in deep depression, not that long ago. These days I aim for every second day but it still often stretches out to four or five. Basin washes in between. How liberating to be able to discuss this with others who struggle with it too. I also have a hard time mentioning this to mental health professionals because it's so embarrassing but I have told my psychiatrist about it. He sees it as a symptom of depression. I almost always feel better after a shower but, like @Former-Member, I'm not keen on the vulnerability of being naked (though I used to have no problem with that). I think it's slowly getting better as a range of other things are improving slowly but slow is the operative word.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Me too. I feel safer with clothes on ... and with neck removing clothes was big challenge. For most of the time I had a brief shower on automatic ... forc ing myself .... and certainly not feeling relaxing at all . In my gym period ... I changed my showering to after my workouts and lost decades of routine ... now I shower any time when needed ... and then lately as I am letting things go a bit realised it was becoming alternate days.
A discussion emerged in choir about this with another lady ... we agreed that the daily shower was an excess ... with Australia's water shortages ... so there I am making it a virtue not to waste water ...
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
@Former-Member,
How does it feel actually writing about it?
I'm totally....I must stay clean and must have a shower....but not lately.........I've noticed, since my medication messup for a long time.......I just am not showering.
I have no problems with taking my clothes off or anything....so in that way it's ok. When my kids were little, I was okay showertime and in the shower sometimes twice a day.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Im so glad your on this forum, you bring it a like...new way of seeing things. You show me what it's like for younger women.
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