i need help finding out why i destroyed my marriage

@Pj1975 God i am probably way too opinated for this forum lol.

Only you know that answer & the relationship. Communication most of the time is the key but hey what would i know my last relationship failed...lol
Did your wife leave?

@Pj1975.
What were you trying to find in the porn and chat sites?
Why didn't you get that from your partner?
Did you put the same hours into your relationship every day as you did these sites?
Don't forget we are all just humans. And as such wr make mistakes. Try not to be too hard on yourself.
Well done for trying to better yourself.

Hello @Pj1975

I don't think I have met you before, so it is nice meeting you 🙂

It seems like you have been going through an incredibly tough time with your marriage seperation and on top of that trying to manage online chatting and and porn compulsions, that is a lot going on.

It is good you are reaching out on the forums for some extra support right now, you might like to Introduce Yourself here, if you like.

I have also added in some services if you are looking for extra support through counselling, as compulsions can feel overwhelming so sometimes gaining more understanding about those behaviours and thoughts is really helpful -

Relationships Australia
1300 364 277
www.relationships.org.au
Relationships Australia provides relationship support services to enhance human and family relationships.

MensLine Australia
1300 78 99 78
24/7
Forums and Chat
www.mensline.org.au
MensLine Australia is the national telephone and online support, information and referral service for men with family and relationship concerns. MensLine provides:

• Coaching and practical strategies for managing personal relationship concerns;
• Relevant information and linkage to other appropriate services and programs as required.
• Request a callback, Forums, Chat, video counselling

MensLine Australia is for all men and all types of relationships. In particular it is for men who:

• want to better manage a primary relationship difficulty and enhance an existing relationship with their wives, partners, children, work colleagues or anyone else in their lives;
• have concerns about being a dad and want to improve their parenting skills;
• are dealing with a separation or family breakdown and would like some support to manage this critical time appropriately;
• have concerns about emotional wellbeing or anger management issues;
• are dealing with family violence;
• Anyone who is worried about a male family member, partner or friend;
• Professionals
• Same-sex relationships: Communication in same sex male relationships; Family violence in same-sex relationships; Same-sex attraction; and Same-sex relationships: what to do when your partner comes out

I look forward to getting to know you better,

Lunar