being confused

Hi @carlos

Wow you have been through so much. You worked so hard and then to have those set backs (painful ones at that, by the sounds of it!), it would be really disheartening.

Your ability to maintain your physical exercise and going to the gym for 4.5 years is incredible - that's hardly a failure!! Some terrible physical things happened to you, which was out of your control. It does take time to "get back on the horse" and that's completely normal.

Besides the weight loss, did you notice any difference to your mental health when you were going to the gym?

It's a bit of a "chicken or egg" situation. When our mental health is suffering, we struggle with motivation to do things like exercise, but without the exercise, we don't get the mental health boost!

That's great you're still going to the gym. A broken leg too? Wow - you have overcome a lot!

You said you aren't eating as well as you should - is this what you are referring to when you say you feel like you're going back to old habits? or are there other habits you're concerned about?

Please be gentle on yourself - the fact you have recognised that things aren't okay, you're reaching out for advice AND you're still doing positive things for your health, is a really big deal and you should give yourself credit for that.

Welcome to the forums @carlos

Self worth is a big issue for a lot of us. It can take energy to keep challenging negative thoughts.

Glad you are riding the wave past negativity.

On Friday nights we have a virtual feast ... sometimes we talk food .. good ideas for health ... tho sometimes decadence ... it is great to have new people on the forum.

Hey @carlos

How are you doing with the job?

Please don't be too tough on yourself - there are circumstances of our your control that have caused the weight. Weight is just one component of health though. It's really important to remember that. Your heart, organs, muscles, mental health and much more are benefiting from your exercise.

Weight alone is a dangerous measure of success.

@Appleblossom was right - self worth is a huge one.

Are you talking to someone about these lows you're experiencing? A counsellor or psychologist can help with these feelings of self worth.

I noticed we had another member tonight post about the frustrations of putting on weight. You can find the discussion here if you want to drop by and say hi. Sometimes it's just helpful to know you're not the only one experiencing these things.

Take care 🙂