outlanderSenior Contributor
TRIGGERRED!!!!!
I have been really badly triggerred. None of my coping strategies are working.
It is triggerred all my csa stuff and i really cant handle it!!!!
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TRIGGERRED!!!!!
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Big breaths @outlander. Triggers suck.
You're able to see you've been triggered which means you can tell that it is because something is reminding you of something that has happened in the past. That means that today it is not happening, even though your body might be feeling like it is.
Today it is the 24th of November 2017. It is not happening today ❤
Hard though. Really hard.
You're able to see you've been triggered which means you can tell that it is because something is reminding you of something that has happened in the past. That means that today it is not happening, even though your body might be feeling like it is.
Today it is the 24th of November 2017. It is not happening today ❤
Hard though. Really hard.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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It feels like its all happeneing all over again @CheerBear
Its using all my senses. I cnt focus on anything else
Running aroubd like a mad chook doesnt help either
Its using all my senses. I cnt focus on anything else
Running aroubd like a mad chook doesnt help either
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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I can understand how much it can feel like it is happening all over again @outlander.
Running around might have helped release some of that big fear response, even if it doesn't feel like has.
Reluctant to suggest anything because you work through triggers so often. You do work through them (is my point) and you do get through them. You can do this and it is highly likely this will not last forever, even if it feels like it will right now.
Hope it settles for you soon.
Running around might have helped release some of that big fear response, even if it doesn't feel like has.
Reluctant to suggest anything because you work through triggers so often. You do work through them (is my point) and you do get through them. You can do this and it is highly likely this will not last forever, even if it feels like it will right now.
Hope it settles for you soon.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Suggest away @CheerBear none of my strategies are working
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Have you tried your flashback cards @outlander?
Sometimes when I am big time shaky, wrapping myself in my blanket (across my shoulders and around my front) and sitting tightly in a ball on the floor (knees to my chest, arms around my knees etc) can help me feel secure and safe. Then I ride it out knowing my body is not designed to last in such a state forever.
Have to head off now. You've got this, even if it doesn't feel like it. Sorry it's so hard right now though.
Big hugs 💗
Sometimes when I am big time shaky, wrapping myself in my blanket (across my shoulders and around my front) and sitting tightly in a ball on the floor (knees to my chest, arms around my knees etc) can help me feel secure and safe. Then I ride it out knowing my body is not designed to last in such a state forever.
Have to head off now. You've got this, even if it doesn't feel like it. Sorry it's so hard right now though.
Big hugs 💗
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Its 33 degrees here bitbhot for blankets but i get the pic thanks @CheerBear
I dont know whats worse the physical side or the memory. Both.
I dont know whats worse the physical side or the memory. Both.
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
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Hi @outlander
I am sorry you are triggered - I have no idea what that trigger was at this stage but an anxiety attack is no fun
I read this some time back and I certainly hope you have settled by now - having your family move out will register high on your stress scale because it seems as if it can only be all good but it is actually a culture shock and I get it
All the best - hugs from Granny Dec
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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yeah gone from anxiety to depression @Owlunar it never ends. it never will.
it doesnt matter anymore anyway.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Morning @Owlunar ❤❤
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OwlunarSenior Contributor
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Hi @outlander
I can see you there - and yes - it may be that you get triggers for a long time yet - and so do I - and I have an idea that triggers happen and trying to avoid them is really hard and so I have tried hard to learn that this is life and try to figure my way through the maze of reminders than can turn us topsy-turvey at times
I have had a bunch of them since I had my operation but learning this is my life etc has helped - but this is a life-time of enduring and getting stronger about it
So still I don't know what happened to set you off - I can say that yes - it does matter and yet - this is your life - and no - it's horrible and no - you don't have to like it
For some reason I hve been thinking about my mother now and again after the last few days - she was not a helpful person and so - like - why her? and why now? - trick questions in my foggy brain right now but think on - I need to think on and you need to think on - right
I think that for some reason we have an idea that our mothers will care for us and this does not always happen and this is a grief-situation
As I don't know what your trigger was/is I can only assume that it is something in your past has got uip and bitten you on the backside - and I am sorry about this - and again - it happens and you don't have to like it
Honestly I do believe that trying to avoid triggers makes it harder - and the idea of holding an ice-cube in your hand will give you something else to think about - good idea
I am rattling - I deleted a part of this message and - oh sheesh - one thing I remember from my past is Ernie on Sesame Street singing "Manamana - manamana" and knowing myself I would be pleased to hear someone trying to care rather than the empty air yelling at me
I care heaps and hope you are feeling better today - it will take time and practice to find your feet in the world after a major life-change
Sending hugs and what else I can find here
Dec
