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merdasdasdContributor
It's been like this for a while, but it's something I can't really explain.
I often feel alone when I am by myself and only when I am by myself.
I can't stand it studying at home or whatever and need to go places to feel somewhat sane.
*I am an only child and both my parents work*
People say that spending time alone is needed to relax, but I feel alone spending any time over 3 hours by myself.
EEP.
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NebSenior Contributor
Aloneness is not something one can say EVERY body needs so much or this much time. It is an individual thing and a lot of social conditioning is involved as well. I am alone, I get lonely but I need more time alone than with others. This is neither the right way or the correct way, and of course over our life span this may alter.
So, you find being alone stressful for a length of time.......so go with that. if you are in a situation where you cannot readily remedy that, listen to music, have the tv on in the background ......or take a walk. Walking gets you into the outdoors, you see and hear stuff about you!
just a couple of thoughts on my part....
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Being an only child would probably also drive a need for the company of others. Do you have regular friendships or social catch ups?
I liked to catch public transport to help me feel connected to others ...
Loneliness is hard.
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JM028Casual Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Yep the vocalisation is important.
When I was at uni, I could go so long without talking that
i almost forgot how to speak ... its one of the reasons I have found singing so helpful .. but I only started singing relatively recently
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merdasdasdContributor
I do have friendships. But I get the feeling on loneliness fairly easily.
It's just that when i don't have contact with anyone after a period of time i feel incredibly lonely. At times, the loneliness can somewhat descend into depressing thoughts. Then I need to see someone again.
It's kind of like a cycle.
*Anything more than a day or two and I'll start to feel the loneliness creep back in again*
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JM028Casual Contributor
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