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Hi @BambiFawn

I hear you and understand. I often wished I had the love of my mother for so many years, and this is empathised when witnessing those who do. What I try and do is be the best one I can be to my daughter but often feel the void of not knowing this myself. I empathise with you. You are not alone. Sending you a warm hug xxx 🤗❤️

Hey dear lovely @Former-Member, thank you for being so caring and kind to me. You sound like a wonderful and loving mother to your beloved daughter. Good on you. You deserve words of praise. I try to demonstrate my love and affection to my child, but sadly her love and loyalty has been bought by my mother. And my mother has brainwashed her as she has raised her since the tender age of 7. So I try to send cards and gifts to my child regularly but she is being controlled by my mother, and so often I may not get a reply for a long while. However, I do not blame my child, as she is influenced by my mother. Anyway, I'm trying to always be there for my child and be the best mum I can be.

Your welcome @BambiFawn

I didn't realise you had a child. I lost three. It's good you are keeping contact - your child knows you love him/her and thats what matters. All we can do is our best and take comfort from that. Sweet dreams dear @BambiFawn 😴💕

Oh, @BambiFawn, I don't know what to say. I feel for you. Unfortunately we can't change people, they are who they are. So many of us struggle with all sorts of childhood trauma and so often the very people who are "supposed" to lookout for, care for, protect and love us are the very ones who abuse, hurt, betray and often don't believe us. I imagine it would be extremely difficult for you to keep trying to have some sort of relationship with your mother, but as you have indicated, she is not responding as you would like her to respond. I would find her inaction extremely hurtful and distressing, so I am wondering if it might be an idea not to reach out for a while? (Only a suggestion.) Believe me, many of us don't have the "loving" family relationship that you envisage to be normal. Society as a whole has alot to answer for with the idealised family life that is depicted in tv shows such as The Brady Bunch and the many family-oriented Christmas feel-good movies, which is so often pure fantasy. Dear @BambiFawn, you have us forum people as your family,which I know isn't the same as a mother/child relationship, but we do care about you, so please don't think you are alone. It must be difficult knowing that your mother is caring for your child, so that is a double sadness. Keep in contact with your baby. You are a beautiful,caring person, and we are here for you and won't abandon you. Take care.

I hear you and understand @BambiFawn

i was mentally abused by my father when i was young an then mum and I left , after that my dad kept rejecting me until 10 years ago when he passed away , he would see me on the footpath and he would step into a shop and hide behind something

I totally know what you mean my friend , you are not alone

Hi dear @Shaz51, thanks for being so kind and caring. I'm so sorry about your father and what he did. You are loved and a precious child of Father God.

thanks @BambiFawn

You are loved and a precious child of Father God. -- you too my dear friend xx

Hey dear lovely @NatalieS, thank you for being so caring and I am grateful to you for your good advice. Yes, I am happy in my station in life, as happy as I could be and I have God to thank for that for helping me and healing me of my troubles. We all have problems in life and mine is just a little pothole in the road on my journey and it won't stop me from enjoying my life. As you said lots of people have difficulties in their marriages and family problems, be it illness, financial problems, homelessness, or relationship discord and breakdown. We just have to make the most of life and I am trying to count my blessings everyday.

Hugs and bless you dear Natalie.

Sleep tight, precious @BambiFawn

rest up and sleep well dear precious @NatalieS. You are so kind and lovely, thanks for being there for me. 🙂