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Lost and disconnected

Winter1New Contributor16 Oct 2017, 10:54 pm AEDT

Lost and disconnected

I've always had a tendency towards escapism but ever since I moved away from home and came to university it has been harder and harder to keep myself in line. I have good concrete plans for my future and I know that I am smart enough to accomplish all of it. But for some reason, my control centre doesn't seem to grasp the gravity of the situation.

Earlier this year, a parent was hospitalised and I felt nothing. Don't get me wrong, i didn't feel anything because I knew that if I came face to face with the seriousness of it all, I wouldn't know what to do.

The same response has become a norm now and I don't know how to deal with it anymore. My brain is alert and agile but my mind just shuts off and runs away. I don't know how reconcile them both.

But I do know that I will have no one else but me to blame if I can't get this under control and soon.

I appreciate your help and support!

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In response to: Lost and disconnected

JoeTheLionSenior Contributor16 Oct 2017, 11:27 pm AEDT

Re: Lost and disconnected

Hi @Winter1,

Welcome to the forum.

Sounds like you're feeling pretty confused about how you're reacting to things at the moment. I reckon it's pretty normal to not know how to deal with things that are new and that you havent experienced before. It's rare for anyone to have all the answers straight away. Sometimes it takes ages to work things out. Go easy on yourself yeah.

Uni's usually have free counselling you can tap into. I can remember seeing one when I was at Uni that really helped me naviagate some full on stuff. Might be worth you checking it out.

All the best yeah

JoeTheLion

In response to: Lost and disconnected

Unknown userMember17 Oct 2017, 1:41 pm AEDT

Re: Lost and disconnected

Hi @Winter1 (great name by the way). Welcome to the forums.

It sounds like a self-protective response, which can be helpful in difficult moments, but not so great if it happens all the time and if we can’t work through things later. (Those ‘big’ feelings we’re avoiding have a habit of sneaking up on us down the track.)

It is making you uncomfortable so I think you should definitely talk to someone who can help you work through what is going on and why this keeps happening. You’ve got insight into what is happening, you just need a bit of help with the ‘why’ and ‘what next’.

@JoeTheLion has given a great suggestion with the uni counselling service. Alternatively, you could try talking to your GP to start with and possibly ask for a referral to a psychologist.

In the meantime, keep talking to us here on the forums. There are plenty of us here who can relate to brains being a little bit tricky.

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