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naebellNew Contributor
Hi all, just signed up so thought I'd introduce myself. I'm rene'e and a carer for my fiancée who has mental illness. He recently had a relapse and self harmed again. I'm kind of lost so thought I'd reach out
Thanks 🙂
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Unknown userMember
Hi @naebell
A very warm welcome to Sane. Sorry to read of the struggle you and your fiancé are dealing with. It is very hard to watch as a carer as that feeling of helplessness wells up. I went through this myself whilst caring for my daughter whom was diagnosed with bi-polar and BPD at that time. It's hard and heart wrenching to witness them self destructing being not sure what to do. Sending you a warm hug 🤗
Is your fiancé currently under the support of a medical professional for treatment/counselling? If you are at all concerned please do not hesitate to ring the mental health crisis team or local hospital in your area.
If you need additional help and guidance there is Carers Australia and Mental Health Carers Australia which you can google for contact details and links.
Please feel free to talk here as much as you need as others whom also care for partners/loved ones with MI with join in soon.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Hi @naebell and welcome
It is good to see you reach out for support like this. Do you have family or friends who can support you through this as well? Having a support network around you is super important especialy in times of crisis. You will find everyone here very friendly and supportive.
I care for my wife who lives with borderline personality disorder (BPD) who late last year had a relapse and has really been struggling since. We also have 3 children aged 2, 10 & 12.
Happy to answer any questions you may have.
All the best
D
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
Hi @naebell I am a newbie too! I have a mental illness and am a carer as well. Welcome to the boards. Everyone is really nice and kind here so I am sure you will have no troubling settling right in. Welcome!
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