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Don't know how much longer i can do this for. I get blamed for everything. We have to do things to suit Mr but sometimes its hard 3 of us live here not just 1. He says he wants to get out of debt but spends 200-300 a week at pub and he doesn't even work. Confused don't know which way to look or even turn.
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HI @LOVELUKE,
It sounds like you are having quite a hard time caring for Mr at the moment. It can be such a strain when a loved one doesn't seem to want to take care of themselves in a moment, even if in finance.
What kind of things do you do for yourself to relieve some of the stress? There are quite a few members that can relate to your stress - you may find it useful to post in this thread Wives caring for husbands.
Lauz
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