When is it ok to pull back?

Hi Kate,

I am pleased being on the forum helps. Kate do you think you may be able to speak with those you are caring for and create some very special time for you. Your post really does say you are a caring person, at times if we need to pull back (create boundaries) it can work for all and may create a new way of life for your friends, family and yourself.

Would your friend seek out other supports if they where available?

Be kind to yourself,

Tria

Hi Kate,

Its interesting your reply seems to be the start of a plan already. The plan may have you as a part of their support coming to a solution over a cuppa. There is support out there that may take the presser off you as well. It is not always all or nothing if you still want to be part of their journey.

You may be supprised they may not realize you need a break and would want that for you as well.

Trust yourself Kate .

Kindly

Tria

Hi @Kate70

Welcome to the Forums. Creating boundaries is a huge part of being an effective carer. Without our wellbeing, we can't be the best carers we can be.

Please don't feel responsible for your friend seeking help. It sounds like you have been a wonderful friend, though you also have to take care of yourself. Giving your friend options and advice is the closest you can get to dragging them somewhere and forcing them to talk 🙂

I guess what I'm getting at is there's only so much you can do and you have to create your boundaries (I mean physically write them down) so you don't continue to be pulled back into the cycle.

There are a fair few discussions around boundaries that have taken place in these forums. One that springs to mind is this one

You sound like such a caring person, but don't forget about your own self - care. 🙂