Diary of wifes hospital stay - holding it together for our family

Morning @soul

Good morning @Determined, how are things going at your end?

Ok @soul

A little sad and lonley at the moment.

How come? Missing your Darling?

Are you allowed to visit her? Not sure how these things work. How are the kids holding up? I know there was a problem with your son at school the other day. And uni?

Dont want to complain, just craving some 'normal' adult conversation whatever that is. Need to keep 3 little people busy today (student free day at school) and it is looking like rain.

I know you're doing it tough at the moment so if you need to vent, that's okay. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it can make things worse as they can make you dwell on your problems.

As for the kids at home, is that a good distraction or are they preventing you from doing things you need to get done? Are there relatives who can help out?

it's raining here too so it's stopped me from doing my morning walk with my dog. Put a dampener on my day (get the pun?)

Yes @soul, missing my darling. She is really home this time also. Really worried about how the coming weeks will go for us all.

Son is ok as he can be at the moment. Smoothed things out at school yesterday, meeting with the principle and chappy on Monday to work out a plan to ensure it dosent hqppen again. Just really hurt and disappointed that it got out of hand the way it did and the teacher responsible was someone who I thought we could trust to look out for him. Had his usual teacher been there it would never have happened.

I can tell that you really love your family and that's why you are feeling this way. Your situation has now impacted on your son in a more serious fashion. Keep communication with the school and let them know if there are circumstances which may affect your boy. Can you email the teacher? If they have the heads up, they may be able to be on the look out for certain behaviours and deal with them appropriately.

The next few weeks will be trying times for you. It's hard to know whether we are doing the right thing. Try to take a little step back at times, breathe and analyse what is going on before acting or reacting. And very importantly, take care of yourself. It's likely that you are suffering from depression over your current situation, so do something that brings you some joy.

Can visit after 3, is a 2 - 3 hour round trip. I am getting preassure from family not to do the drive so often.

Yes having boys home makes it hard to get my work done but reality is that Im not getting anything done anyway. Dont know if it helps to talk about it or not @soul, just so sick of moaning about how bad things feel. Have so many things to be thankful for but just dont know what to talk abiut positive or negative... just feeling empty and lonley. Feeling ungrateful about the positives and ripped off about everything else.

Children could go see nan but S2 particually needs to be with me so he dosent feel pushed aside.