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CFHContributor
Hi everyone. I have bipolar 2. I lost my dad not even a year ago, not in a cosy, peaceful way. My spouse JUST DOES NOT GET IT! I watched him take his last breath and was such a fast process over 3 days. It was traumatic for my whole family. My spouse is pissed at me because it's like I should be over it. "normal". Spouse is just worried about how it all effects them. I am sooooooo fucked up rn!
In response to: Bipolar 2, grief, and spouse not understanding
SunsetSunriseModerator
Hi @CFH
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. Losing a loved one is never easy, even more so when the death was fast, unexpected or especially traumatic to witness. I'm hearing that its still quite fresh for you, which is so understandable, its not even been a year. grief is something that stays with you always, its just the way that you feel it and carry it that changes. It makes sense that its still so prominent in your life at the moment.
I'm also hearing that you're feeling quite unsupported by your spouse. I totally get your frustration and anger, anyone would be upset to hear those things from their life partner while grieving the loss of a parent, diagnosis or not. He sounds a bit selfish, worrying about himself while you're processing the loss of your dad. There's no timeline for grieving. While it is true that most people can expect to have to bury their parents, it doesn't make it any easier when that time does come.
I'm going to leave the resource for coping with grief for you, you might find it helpful.
Take extra gentle care.
-SunsetSunrise
In response to: Bipolar 2, grief, and spouse not understanding
Misty7Senior Contributor
Hi@CFH,
Sorry to hear that you are grieving the loss of your parents. It definitely is a long process and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Watching anyone take their last breath is very difficult and is something that stays with you. I am really sorry your partner is not very supportive at this time. It's not like a switch where you can simply turn off your feelings like that. Are you able to get some support from seeing a counsellor? You can get free grief support at this website they have a counselling line:
https://nalag.org.au/ hope this helps. Take care.
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