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ADHD Sanctuary trauma

JMJNew Contributor04 May 2026, 5:31 pm AEST

ADHD Sanctuary trauma

After nearly 30 years of what I thought was a perfect marriage he cheated. We just moved to a new house and it’s a construction zone. I have ADHD and my world is shattered. I feel like the whole relationship was a lie. I doubt everything. He was my home and my best friend. He's trying and doing all the right things but I can't put it down. I cant hear above my own thoughts. The pain is inescapable and doubles me over and I cant get out of my head. I have no family and I'm in a new place where I don't know anyone and he is FIFO.

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hopeful_hannahModerator04 May 2026, 5:56 pm AEST

Re: ADHD Sanctuary trauma

Oh @JMJ I am so sorry to read this! I can hear how upset you are and understandably so.

I don't have anything clever to say that can take your pain and confusion away.

Just know that you're not alone, you don't have to be alone with all this.

It's so good that you are reaching out for support and expressing how you feel and what's going on.

I'm sure others in the forums community will jump in to offer some support.

If you feel like talking to someone lines like Lifeline provides free, 24/7 telephone crisis support
Phone - Call 13 11 14
Chat – Visit
https://www.lifeline.org.au

SANE has a program that offers one on one support called the Recovery Club you can find more information and register here (access is fast and free) Welcome to SANE’s Recovery Club

We're here for you ok? You'll get through this.

Sending you all my best 💌

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Misty7Senior Contributor04 May 2026, 8:43 pm AEST

Re: ADHD Sanctuary trauma

Hi@JMJ,

so sorry this has happened to you. You must feel so isolated and alone, not to mention the impact this has had on your mental health. Your partner should not be leaving you alone at this vulnerable moment in time. They need to be there for you not flying out and leaving you all by yourself with no family to talk to.They have a lot of work to do to repair this and need to support you emotionally not just financially. If they genuinely care about you and this relationship they won't leave you alone.

*Please don't hesitate to contact Relationships Australia for support on 1300364277 they might be able to point you in the right direction.

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