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Having difficulty in choosing life pathway

RiceCakeNew Contributor25 Feb 2015, 12:32 am AEDT

Having difficulty in choosing life pathway

I'm an introvert person and 21 years old. Personally, I really like to do everything alone.

I'm currently still studying. After the graduation(october 2015), I don't like to continue work in the manufacturing field but I still can persist to work for the next 3 years.
In fact, I used to remember I like to discover anything in this world and help the others/animals or charity. I do truly interested in photography and considering to get a diploma(at least) but I barely have the funds to pursuit the diploma even after the 3 years of working.

On the other hand, I love women, I'm not really shy and would like to find a girl to have an attitude like me. Unattractive can still work as long as she likes to do what I liked to do for life. Sounds easy here, but I knew it's hard to bring into line nowadays. Have been in a relationship before, unfortunately it was a bad one. I haven't had any friends in my life circle. If I switched into photography and do what I interested in, I rarely have a time being with my future girlfriend/partner, whereas it may lead to break up.

However, my mother keeps encourage me to find a girlfriend after the graduation(work). If I have a partner one day, will that partner bear and living with me in that kind of life? I felt this is imbalance for her and financial consideration too. I wouldn't mind I ended up being alone for the rest of my life but hoping I can get what I wanted.

Sorry for my bad english.

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CherryBombSenior Contributor25 Feb 2015, 8:05 pm AEDT

Re: Having difficulty in choosing life pathway

Hi @RiceCake

Welcome to the Forums!

Finding a partner, knowing what to do with your life, and having financial struggles are all parts of life, that i think many of us struggle with at some point in our live - You're not alone. I've been here too.

You mentioned that you're currently studying? You might finding talking to a counsellor at your university helpful? They can provide support and advice for anything ranging from relationship issues to providing guidance for career choices. At most universities, you can speak to a counsellor for free too.

I also provided a similar suggestion to @Kimina - I wonder if she ended up speaking to a counsellor at her uni. Kimina, if you did, perhaps you can offer some information about how you went about accessing one?

Finding a the 'right' partner can be challenging and complex because everyone is so unique in their needs and interests. Knowing what you think defines a good relationship is a good start. You might find reading this post started by @Former-Member interesting. They talk about feeling introverted, single but happy.

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KiminaCasual Contributor25 Feb 2015, 11:08 pm AEDT

Re: Having difficulty in choosing life pathway

@RiceCake & @CherryBomb

Whilst I haven't been able to get into an appointment yet with a counselor at my uni (mainly due to the hectic eso of timetableing for the upcoming semester) through my past experience with counselling, I agree with CherryBomb in takeing advantage of this service if it's available to you. I found them realy easy to get in contact with, I located all the information easily on the university website, but you could also try going to the main administration office where they usually also carry pamphlets or info about the counselling services your school has to offer.

I discovered recently too that counselling through my school can also offer help in understanding the schools procedures and process, and when you feel confused and stressed about your options they can give you advice about how to proceed, this might be the same for you, if your interested in doing study in photography they might be able to provide you with information about how to proceed or access to even more resources that are offered by your school that will help you acheive what you want to do.

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particleg13New Contributor26 Feb 2015, 11:57 am AEDT

Re: Having difficulty in choosing life pathway

Hi Ricecakes,

It doesn't matter where you start as long as you do. Find and hang on to that girl, buy a cheap camera and start making photo albums. Join a charity for this is the stuff of life! It may not happen in that order but start at one.

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