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Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Content note: this post discusses workplace termination, financial hardship, and briefly references suicidal thoughts.

I'm drafting a petition to Parliament proposing reforms such as:

  • Safe harbour protections for employers who engage in good-faith accommodation.
  • Tax incentives for inclusive hiring of people with disabilities and neurodivergent individuals.
  • A voluntary accreditation scheme for mental-health-inclusive workplaces.
  • Workplace accommodation grants so the cost of support does not fall entirely on the employer.
  • Prohibition on pre-offer inquiries about mental health conditions or disabilities, specifically to protect people with disabilities and neurodivergent individuals from being screened out before they have a chance to demonstrate their capability.
  • A fairer process for enforcing workplace rights, so that the 21-day time bar does not become a financial moat that locks out the very people the laws were designed to protect.

Before I lodge it, I want to understand how widespread this experience is.

If you have experienced something similar, I would value hearing from you. Please do not share any identifying details about employers or individuals. I am interested in:

  • Roughly how long after disclosure (or a visible crisis) did the exit occur?
  • Was it framed as performance, restructure, probation, or something else?
  • Was your role replaced?
  • Did you feel you had a genuine alternative, or was it a binary choice?
  • Industry and role level (for example, "professional services, mid-level")?
  • Were you able to access legal help, or was the cost a barrier?

I am not a lawyer and I am not offering advice. I am just trying to find out whether my experience is an outlier or part of a broader pattern. If it is the latter, the petition has a much stronger foundation than pursuing the employers and individuals within them.

MY STORY
I'm a accountant in my early 30s with ADHD, depression, anxiety, and possibly a sprinkle of Autism (Yay! I'm like Thanos but with mental disabilities). Over the past 18 months, I've been let go from two successive white-collar roles shortly after my mental health became visible at work. I'm not here to name anyone or point fingers. I believe my former managers were acting rationally within a regulatory framework that gives them few good options. I'm trying to understand whether others have experienced something similar.

The pattern in my case:

  • Strong performance record (positive reviews, pay rise, bonus, public recognition from senior leadership).
  • A mental health crisis or disclosure at work.
  • Shortly afterwards, a conversation that included the phrase "we just want to work out how we can best support you."
  • A binary choice: performance improvement plan or severance.
  • Exit within 1 to 2 weeks of the disclosure, framed as a performance issue.

Why I'm only asking this now:

When the second termination happened, I had a suspicion that something bigger was going on. The timing, the language, the binary choice, the way it rhymed with my first experience. But I was exhausted, unwell, and trying to focus on the future. I told myself I would move on.

Then on 5 March 2026 I read about the death of a NAB employee at the bank's Docklands headquarters. The reporting that followed raised questions about how large organisations handle employees in distress. I'm not drawing any conclusions about that specific case. The coroner will do that, and the family deserves privacy. But reading about it cracked something open for me.

I went and looked up when the psychosocial hazard laws actually came into effect. I learned that Victoria's Occupational Health and Safety (Psychological Health) Regulations 2025 only commenced on 1 December 2025, making Victoria the last Australian jurisdiction to introduce specific regulations on psychosocial hazards. These are very new laws. We are all still in the first year or two of seeing how they play out in practice.

The legislative gap (as I understand it):

The intent of the psychosocial hazard regulations was good. Treat mental health like physical safety. Employers now have a positive duty to identify and manage workplace factors that can harm mental health.

The unintended consequence, as I see it, is that these obligations attach to the employer the moment they become aware of an employee's mental health condition. Directors and officers can face personal liability for failing to manage psychosocial risks. Suddenly, a disclosure is not just a conversation about support. It is a compliance event that creates legal exposure.

The loophole is this: the easiest way to extinguish that exposure is to remove the person before the duty fully crystallises. Probation clauses, performance frameworks, and "mutual" severance agreements all provide mechanisms to exit an employee quickly and quietly. None of them require the employer to admit that mental health played any role. The employee is told it is about performance. The paperwork says the same. And because the employee is usually in no state to fight, most never test the real reason.

It feels to me like a knee-jerk reaction to directors not wanting to be personally liable for other people's mental health, combined with a framework that gave them an easy way out. The people making these decisions are doing what the system rewards them for doing. That is why I think legislative change is the right target, not individual blame.

The financial trap:

I want to be honest about what termination actually means for someone in my position. My mental health services are paid for out of my own pocket. Psychiatry, psychology, medication, GP appointments. Termination does not just remove my income. It removes the support system that keeps me well. For someone already in a fragile state, the second termination was the nail in the coffin.

Government support is not available to me. My wife's income is above the Centrelink threshold, but her income alone is not enough to sustain us. I am in the gap: too unwell to work, not poor enough to qualify for help, dependent on the generosity of my father to keep the lights on. I am one of the lucky ones. I have a family who can catch me. Many people in my position may not have that.

The legal trap:

Under the Fair Work Act, a General Protections claim must be filed within 21 days of dismissal. Twenty-one days, during a period when I was in clinical crisis, had no income, and could not afford legal representation. The time bar is, in effect, a financial moat. It means only people with savings, resilience, and immediate access to legal advice can enforce their rights through case law. Everyone else is locked out of the very mechanism that would shift the law in their favour.

Even if I could make the deadline, there is another problem. In professional services, a reputation for "suing your employer" is a career-ender, regardless of the merits. If I pursue an unfair dismissal claim, word spreads. I would be trading my future earning capacity for a principle. Even with strong evidence, the commercial reality is that it is safer for me to stay quiet and move on.

So I am in a real dilemma. I move on, and the cycle continues for the next person. I pursue it, and I risk being pushed out of my profession and into deeper financial distress. Neither option is survivable without help. Is it a stark reality - that people have to die for things to change?

A hard thing to say:

I want to be honest with this community because I think honesty is the only thing that will change any of this. There have been moments in the last few weeks where I have had the thought that ending my life would be easier than continuing. I have not acted on it. I won't act on it. I have a wife I love, parents who are holding me up, and a dream to have a child I want to meet one day. I know that ending my life would create more problems than it would solve, not fewer. But I understand, now, how someone in a worse position, without the support I have, could feel they had no other choice. That understanding is part of why I am writing this. The system should not put people in that position. It currently does.

At the end of the day, we are all trying to survive. But where we let greed and selfishness consume us, we all lose. It is why I do not blame the individuals. I blame the framework.

Thank you for reading. Let's try and change this, if this is not an isolated event.

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In response to: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Hi @PsychosocialH ,

Welcome to SANE Forums. Thank you for sharing what has been going on for you, it sounds like you’ve been carrying a huge amount, both in terms of what’s happened to you at work and the impact it’s had on your mental health and stability.

What you described, the pattern around disclosure, the sudden shift in how you were treated, and the position it’s left you in financially and emotionally, sounds incredibly disorienting and exhausting.

I also really want to acknowledge what you shared toward the end of your post. Having thoughts about not wanting to keep going, especially in the middle of everything you’ve been dealing with, can be really confronting. Even though you’ve said you won’t act on those thoughts, you don’t have to carry them on your own.

It’s a positive thing that you can name the supports and reasons that are keeping you here, your wife, your family, and your hopes for the future. At the same time, you deserve support through this, not just something to endure.

If things feel like they’re building at any point, it could really help to reach out to someone in the moment. whether that’s a trusted person in your life or a support service like Lifeline (13 11 14) or Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467), both available 24/7.

In terms of what you’re asking, you’re absolutely welcome to share your experience here, and others may connect with parts of your story. At the same time, this space is also here for you as a person, not just the issue you’re trying to explore.

It really sounds like you’ve been doing your best to get through something incredibly tough, and the way you’ve been able to reflect on it and put it into words here shows a lot of strength, even if it doesn’t always feel that way

In response to: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

I agree that there definitely should be laws in place that stops Employers from asking about Mental Health issues during the Interview Stage.

At my last interview, I was asked "How do you handle stress?" and "What is the real reason why you haven't worked for a long time?" all aimed at getting me to disclose my health issues. I had no choice but to be honest and tell them about my illnesses. Of course I did not get the job as soon as I told the truth, which is unfair to me. If I didn't get the job based off my lack of ability to answer the interview questions then that would be alright. But to be forced to open up about my Mental Health issues when I am not ready to - that was unfair to me.

I left feeling rather angry for being treated as too different to a regular job seeker. If there was a law that prohibited the disguise of such a question, I would be able to accept when I am rejected from a job better.

I hope your petition goes through to Parliament.

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Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

I'm sorry you went through that... I am experiencing the same. This is not hypothetical. One of Australia’s major law firms, Piper Alderman, has advised employers to consider updating recruitment practices to limit the risk of hiring workers who may struggle with the demands of the job - framed as a compliance strategy under the new psychosocial regulations.

What this creates is an environment where employees are encouraged to suffer in silence. We all know what suffering in silence can result in... The very laws designed to protect people like us are actually harming us.

I will only put it forward to parliament if there is sufficient support. Otherwise, it is clear that no one cares enough, I can move on with my life - but I'd hate to live a life in regret and not at least try to change things when workplace suicides continue to happen.

Source:

Piper Alderman. “Updates to psychosocial regulations in Australia.” April 2025. https://piperalderman.com.au/insight/updates-to-psychosocial-regulations-in-australia/

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Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

@PsychosocialH I am so glad you are raising this, and planing to raise it within your ability - every voice combined adds, I believe. 😊. your struggle between riasing issues for improvements vs. fear of reprisal & reputation damage for doing so is real and relatable.

I am very sorry you, @FearofUnknown and others have experienced this. 😭🤗

I can say that I have my own experience which have been “both ways” - although largely in my career history I have chosen to remove myself from a workplace rather than disclose mental illness. I would first try to address the behaviours causing my mental illness exacerbations, but until my current job never the safety to disclose my diagnosis of chronic major depression. I should say that I have (finally) been diagnosed with AuDHD, which explains so much of my “type” of depression and how I emotionally respond to things.

Sorry - I am not good at “short posts” as when I try to compact complex information people often misunderstand me.

My last 4 years of work have been I think relevant to your questions (Professional role, early-Management / Expert-advice level, Government). I am currently on extended sick-leave as a result of workplace and other health exacerbations to my mental health; however I cannot wholly blame the workplace - but it has been the main contributor the last 2 years, so I will focus on that side of things for you.

The summary:

  • Has disclosed to HR on file a “disability” (unspecified) - they never asked what.
  • Difficulties with workplace behaviours (management, communication, professionalism)
  • Spoke with HR about it; they validated I was not the only person reporting these challenges.
  • Incident with Manager A led to suicidal crisis and before-contacted HR providing support short-term and validating concerns were appropriate to put in a formal complaint if I wished against Manager A, but we decided not to (partly due to fear of possible reprisal; risk vs benefit) - decided to continue seeking temporary-transfers until I could secure a suitable permanent one outside of the wider management-problem environment. Senior Manager C was made aware of the incident, but failed to enact management for Manager A despite developing a mutually agreed (between all 3 of us) plan for how to address the problem raised.
  • 6 months later I was able to transfer to Manager B (who I had worked with previously), but within the same management-problem environment (inter-related team). Manager B was highly supportive, aware of my mental health disability and its worsening due to workplace issues - which were also experienced by themselves and others employees they managed/supported. We jointly sought HR advice and support for dealing with Management behaviours in our area, including Manager A and Senior Manager C.
  • As workplace issues escalated with Manager A and Senior Manager C, Manager B sought increased support from HR for me due to crisis events (she was not aware of the degree, but upon speaking with HR I did disclose the suicidal crisis situation). HR were very supportive and provided services when they were aware of the mental health disability and workplace exacerbations. HR worked with me to appropriately raise the behaviours of concern as they occurred over a few months.
  • After a month or two of raising a few concerns, whilst Manager B was on leave until the following week, Senior Manager C called me into their office claiming I was being “passive aggressive” “multiple times”. They also noted another senior manager (who I had a good relationship with) had privately asked me how I was and my answer had been that I wasn’t doing well but trying to cope with work as best as I could (which they had then broken my confidence by telling Senior Manager C) and that it was not OK to say these things because it could “spread negativity and affect others”. This interaction was immediately discussed with the HR support who were appalled (having viewed the exact “passive aggressive” message that was cited, and deeming it not at all aggressive, only professionally assertive), and assisted me with a written response (as I had deliberately not responded during the meeting, due to trying to maintain emotional regulation/composure). Senior Manager C did not respond to the questions/points made, to explain their criticisms. HR advised I was within my rights to submit a formal complaint about Senior Manager C - but we decided not to due to my current suicidal crisis risk being escalated by the stressful process as well as future retaliations, since I had already secured a temporary transfer to a team outside the current management environment (but still interacting peripherally with them).

I am now 6-9 months after that incident with Senior Manager C, and unable to return to that team due to psychological safety concerns. Once I am well enough to return to modified work, I will be ‘medically redeployed' by HR processes. HR are still supportive of keeping options open to lodge a formal complaint if I wish when I am well enough, and if ‘safer’ once I have secured a suitable alternative team/role that does not require interactions with Senior Manager C that could involve retribution from a formal complaint.

A matter of weeks after the above final incident, a Coworker D of mine , who was aware of my mental illness due to personal connection, complained to Manager B about a disagreement they had with me and Coworker D tried to bring my mental illness in to the conversation as the “reason”. Manager B effectively questioned this and clarified it was unrelated to any mental illness and that was inappropriate of them. I reported this incident informally to my HR support, who also affirmed it was disability discrimination by Coworker D; but again I saw no point in pursuing it since I was transferring teams anyway and they had already been “corrected” by Manager B regarding this (unless it were to happen again).

The reason I say this is “both ways” is because HR were very supportive of my mental health disability, and never tried to “blame” me for it. However, they also did not actively intervene to address the widespread behaviours which were contributing to not only mine by numerous other employee’s mental distress. I know of other high-performing employees who were told they were “being difficult to manage” because of raising workplace problems - but all those I know of chose to seek alternative teams/roles as a “solution”. My workplace does not effectively performance manage those who underperform, and so it would be impossible for them to have claimed this with HR for those who are high-performers since there is strong evidence of high performance & reputation.

On the other hand, I have a few coworkers with Bipolar who are well-accepted as needing additional time off during acute episodes, and I am not aware of any career-limiting discrimination against them. However, they don’t actively raise workplace problems - only in private conversations disclose these struggles. I believe in my case it is the raising of workplace issues which is the cause for retribution, not the mental illness itself.

I will say my employer has a number of disability-affirming provisions, and as an organisation has many accommodations for supporting people with disabilities. However it is the individual managers which vary.

In response to: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

I definitely feel this, I know the tactic's they'll use and hence why I don't disclose my mental health as I know it'll suddenly be a performance improvement plan and they'll blame it on performance even though the cause for that dip was mental health, the symptom, performance dip.

It's sad that it's structured in such a way, hence why I feel all of those we're here for you things at work are just a trap for those facing mental health conditions.

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Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

This is great. I really want to support you in anyway I can.

I havent had a dismissal occur to me, but I did have this happen once:

I worked at the HQ a large Australian corporation. You'd know them if I said their name. One day they sent out a compeny-wide anonymous "wellness" survey. I kind of said half joking/half serious that "some days working here makes me want to jump off a bridge".

Well, low and behold it wasn't anonymous and I was called into a meeting with 2 HR representatives. They asked all these invasive questions about my mental health. One thing they asked me was "Are you taking any medication?" to which I replied "No, I haven't taken any in years. I don't need it.". I could clearly see one of the ladies write clearly on her not pad "Has suddenly stopped taking medication".

I called her out on it and got her to cross it out and ended the meeting then and there. Obviously, they were gathering "evidence" to fire me. They didnt, but that's about as close as I've come. So if I was I really wouldve appreciated what you're doing.

(PS NEVER speak to HR about your health. They're there to protect the companies interests, not yours.)

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Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

@Jlol it doesn't have to be this way... We need to stand together to fight for what is right.

In my case, I always was tough on myself and shows through my academics and career. To hear that I was suddenly not 'performing' broke me, I sobbed profusely. After having PTSD from the first instance, it happened again with my new employer. But only this time, I jeopardised myself despite having good feedback and raising my concerns about the business (this business was global).

I'm honestly scared I won't be able to get back in already as it is because now it just looks like I am an uncommitted employee, and do I jeopardise my application to say I was not performing, then the dilemma of telling them about my mental health battles. I have no idea what my references will say...

I'm sooo stuck...

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Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

I have diagnosed ADHD/PTSD and therapists/people have often remarked that I display traits of Autism. I have struggled my whole adult life with depression and some anxiety but have never been diagnosed for those.

I was working for a family business in warehousing, which had been a really nice change after working for corporations etc where you are "just a number." They had been reasonably good to me, despite expecting some unpaid overtime as a way of good faith, which is common in family run businesses.

I experienced a very painful breakup and the poor emotional regulation/PTSD meant that this devastation was very visible and disrupted my sleep and meant I was in an emotionally unstable state within the workplace. I believed I could trust my employer and disclose my poor mental health at this time.

I took the boss aside and had a heart to heart with him that I had experienced a breakup and were experiencing some mental health related repercussions. He was compassionate and talked about reducing my hours for a little while. Unfortunately, at the time I was completely unfit for work and really required time off. When I requested this, he was not willing to oblige, due to operational requirements.

A week later, they let me go.

I just wanted to share my story by way of adding to your petition.

In response to: Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

@papermoon Thank you for sharing your experience, every story adds to the case that there is a real problem and that lives are at risk. We can make a difference together! Hopefully it gains enough traction that SANE will step in and help us have a platform to push for change

Thank you everyone. With everything going on in the world, it's easy to lose faith in humanity. But I know there are still good people out there, we need to stick together and fight for what is right

It is a paradox of its own - those who want peace, never fight. We just need to know when to fight for the greater good, we engage in conversations to understand each other and respect each other's differences.

People with disabilities are not liabilities! We just need to be given the chance to find a role or appropriate accommodation to demonstrate excellence.

PLEASE HELP ME BRING AWARENESS, where you are comfortable to do so - SHARE YOUR STORY, not just here - but everywhere you go. Use my story if you are uncomfortable using your own but please be conscious I am already at risk of jeopardising my career in doing this, because people in my networks are likely able to connect the dots, especially with LinkedIn.

SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT, WE CAN FIX THIS!!

I need your help to spread the message, because the petition will fail without the public banding together to create something that benefits everyone. It doesn't just benefit one profession, it doesn't just benefit a class of wealth, it doesn't just benefit people with disabilities. It benefits all working Australians. I just want what is fair, and I don't want people to go through the pain I have. I know that every time a workplace suicide happens, it will hurt me and bring me back to my suffering.

I just want to be valued...

In response to: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Re: Are others experiencing "masked" dismissals after disclosing mental health at work? (Petition research)

Hey @PsychosocialH I actually did read your post as it came out and yeah I agree its pretty similar.

I didn't respond because I haven't been dismissed yet but I waited till after my probation before even thinking about taking time off. I have this coming week off with a doctors note but im taking leave without pay.

Because im undiagnosed and I figured it wouldnt help my chances to get a job I didnt declare it and I will probably either have to quit my job or be fired because I cant hack it.

For your data I am a skilled technician working in aerospace. I am an apprentice to a cert 4 but technically I only actually need a cert 2 to be licensed which I have.

I would share more but community guidelines 😛

I do think its important to note that in my case the accommodations I need aren't really fair to anyone and my needs are kinda unreasonable.
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