Do I deseve to feel fine?

Hi @Icecream,

It does make sense and I think a lot of people have a similar experience and maybe it's helpful to take away the idea of 'deserve' or comparisons so that you can enjoy the good stuff without the 'guilt' self- talk, and in reverse you are allowed to have challenging times or times when you just want some understanding and support. Although it is wonderful to remember and be grateful for all the good things, it's important to still allow for the fact that sometimes things are tough or challenging for you as well. Thanks for sharing this as I think it is something many of us have also felt at times!

i also have the same thing

i often feel bad about my self and than think about how other people have it worse than me

just know your not alone

Hi @Icecream , @Suporthe ,

Great to see you both again.

@Tolly is right I think. Many people feel sorry for themselves and try to console the thought by remembering other people have it worse. I do. Sometimes it works. Other times it doesn't work.

One of the things I like about the Forum are the people who communicate that it is okay to have a bad day. It is okay to rest. And the support for one another through the not so good days can be amazing.

I often second guess myself in this way @Icecream

It can be due to internal cognitive mindsets.

It can also be due to religious or social practices. Eg., If people are unable to give compassion when the situation is genuinely deserving of it.

I am glad the others chimed in @Realness @Tolly @Suporthe

It is a really serious issue, as it can hamper people from living to their full potential, geberate deeper feelings of unworthiness... eg not grateful enuff... and then self whipping ... at a mental then a physical level ... at least that is how it often played out in my family.

Tbh I believe the world has become more intolerant and lacking in civility and compassion. There can be oneupmanship ... as I had it worse ... or they had it worse .... it cab breed an environment of toxic positivity where people cannot be honest... and then put on a happy face...etc etc etc

Thankyou @Tolly @Suporthe @Realness and @Appleblossom for the support

thank you for asking the question @Icecream

and thank you @Appleblossom , @Realness , @Suporthe , @Tolly for you replies 😍