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I think I'm in love and idk what to do

I think I'm in love and idk what to do

There's a girl I like I've known her for at least 3 years now unfortunately I've caught feelings (not too thrilled about that) she makes me feel safe and heard she's the most nicest human I've met in a long time

My heart tells me to tell her how I feel but my head is constantly reminding me that it would never work

We are polar opposites she's Verry reserved and quiet meanwhile once you get to know me I'm loud and talk alot

I always give her a text message every now and then and she will reply but then randomly the conversation ends as fast as it began like I know she don't do that on purpose but like in my mind I'm pretty sure relationships are meant to be about conversation and understanding and if we have trouble communicating as friends I don't think it'll work out in a relationship (if she even wants me)

And it really hurts cause I love her so much but there's just so many reasons aside from that one that proove it could never work

Like do I just live in delusions and never tell her how I feel?

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Re: I think I'm in love and idk what to do

Welcome aboard Sneaklight 🙂 thanks so much for reaching out for support and community here on SANE forums

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Re: I think I'm in love and idk what to do

Go for a coffee @Sneaklight

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@midmat25 do you help with mental health?

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@midmat25 have you been on a date?

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@Sneaklight All the whirly twirly feelings are scarey.
My humble advice... Ask her out on a little light date. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, she can only say no.
Be upfront, tell her you like her and would like to get to know each other.
Enjoy the love. What is is about YOU that you like when she is around you?
Love is different from attraction. Love is what lifts you and makes you feel good. Attraction is much more primal.

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Re: I think I'm in love and idk what to do

Well we tend to talk alot irl and just hang out and idk when I'm around her I just feel secure we've been to the movies a couple times as friends and go to a DnD session now and she's just fun to be around

I feel like I'm actually loved and appreciated when I'm around her

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Re: I think I'm in love and idk what to do

Hey

Yeah I reckon just tell her or at least ask to hang out and ask her how she thinks things are between you

I don't think there's anything wrong with being open and honest. Just be sincere.

I've been in your place before and I know how it feels.

Sometimes it doesn't work and other times it does. Then the times it does may develop into something but it only goes a short way. Other times it may develop and got for a fee years or even several and then it ends.

Who knows.

The point is not to try and control it. Just let things be.

Don't limit yourself before you've given it a go though.

You never know
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