Jaxx1Casual Contributor
Advice
My girlfriend has recently told me about something that had happened when she was 15 years of age. When she was 15 she had been having sexual relations with a man aged 25, when she told me that I overreacted a bit in my opinion, but also I still think I was justified. She had told me not to tell anyone but I had to tell my sister, who is friends with her foster mum. Since she has had a very rough upbringing I do not judge her for anything that had been done in her past, I only judge what that sick man has done to her. She said that is was “ consensual “ but it cannot be consensual when the age of consent in SA is 17. When she was younger she was abused by her parents and put into the foster system, in that system she was abused again, and again and again. Repeatedly touched and just horrible things, what I want to do to this guy that statutoried her is flowing through my mind at a hundred miles an hour, but I know that I cannot do anything to him physically otherwise I will be getting into more trouble that he would. I don’t know what to do about this, I want to tell her to go to the police about it, but then also that might hurt our relationship as she said that “ she’s not ready to accept what has happened” but it’s something that I cannot accept and let go of, he needs to get what he deserves and he possibly has done it to other girls before her and also can continue doing it to vulnerable young females. What do you people think I should do?
