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cocoloco1Contributor
I’m just curious if anyone else has the same issue as me with start dates. Start dates for example, like wanting to start an activity such as yoga, but you can only make it a habit if it aligns with your rules. For example, for me I could only start yoga if it was a Monday and that Monday was an even number.
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JynxModerator
Hi @cocoloco1 welcome!
I do totally have trouble starting things, but my experiences are related moreso to my ADHD, and looks a lot more like for e.g. me sitting on the couch for an hour like "I should shower. I want to shower. I need to shower. Definitely time to shower...." *continues sitting* 😅
One of my ex-partners used to have lots of rules like this though, largely due to trauma.
Curious - do you have these rules in a lot of areas in your life? What happens if you break them?
Hope you find what you're looking for within the community!
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tymeModerator
I can't say I do @cocoloco1
Can you wait until another start date?
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cocoloco1Contributor
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cocoloco1Contributor
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rav3nSenior Contributor
hey @cocoloco1 just wanted to share a lil tip: you can tag members you want to respond to by using the @ symbol and typing out the username like this @cocoloco1
this ensures the person tagged will be notified of your response!
@tyme @Jynx above post responses for you 😊
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cocoloco1Contributor
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tymeModerator
Look @cocoloco1 , to be honest, if aligning the dates works for you, go for it. However, if it seems to interfere with your life in numerous aspects, then it may be worth speaking to a professional about it. Thoughts?
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cocoloco1Contributor
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tymeModerator
With all my MH battles, one of the biggest things is to learn that we can't 'fix' everything @cocoloco1 . So I mainly tried to 'fix' the things that really impacted my life, and the rest, I sorta left - it was more like 'pick your battles'.
If I continued to fixate on the small things, then they became big things...
So yeah. I hope you find what works for you, and if you need to speak to someone about it, it's not a shame to do so.
Take care mate. I look forward to hearing how things go for you. And I hope you get to enjoy the programs later, even if you don't get into them now.
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