Friendship Drama

hey @Tarmac_6 it's nice seeing you around 😊

that sounds tough. i can see that you had good intentions when you reached out to this friend, and i'm sorry to hear that she didn't take it too well. i'm like you, i don't like people talking behind my back and i'd rather know than make people uncomfortable than continue that action unknowingly. at the same time, there have been times where i haven't handled the feedback as well as i should've - not because the friend was wrong, but because i was embarrassed or upset at myself. but with time, i did process things and come to the realisation that it's not easy for friends to speak ups - and sharing the hard parts made them a true friend. maybe with time, your friend will realise this too? does she tend to respond like this everything someone points something out/speaks up?

i know you mentioned that the touchy behaviour made others uncomfortable, i did want to clarify, did it make you feel uncomfortable too?

mistakes happen, and sometimes we say the wrong things or act poorly - the important part is that she knows now and it's an opportunity for her to grow. it might've been uncomfortable and painful for her to hear, but i really do hope she takes her time to process and acknowledge whats happened.

Hi @rav3n, no she usually takes accountability and apologises when she’s wrong I think this was just like one of her biggest ocd fears and she’s feeling triggered. I’m hoping after time she’ll feel better. I’m thinking of maybe writing her a little letter she can read over if she’s feeling upset.

I personally wasn’t uncomfortable. It was more like she was like grabbing peoples hands she didn’t know (friends of the group she didn’t know) and putting them on her waist.

ahh i see, that makes a lot of sense. it is hard when this is a sensitive topic for her, but from what i'm hearing, you've been a great friend to her. writing that letter sounds like a lovely thing to do, it might just be one of those things that she'll need to process at her own pace. @Tarmac_6

she's lucky to have a friend as caring and supportive as you!! pls don't feel that her feelings/reactions are your responsibility - it's not your fault she reacted this way. you're doing a great job of being there for her, and now it's in her hands to work through it.

i hope you're taking care of yourself too 💙

Well as long as you don’t think I’m in the wrong or there’s anything more I can do I feel ok. Thanks for your support @rav3n

no worries at all @Tarmac_6 it doesn't seem like you've done anything wrong, just an unfortunate situation! got my fingers crossed that you and your friend feel better soon. as always, feel free to reach out and update us on how you go 💙

Hi @rav3n, I bought her a little gift and wrote her a card and we had a chat and she seems to be doing better. She wasn't mad at me just upset by what I was telling her. We're ok and I'm feeling a lot less stressed, I was really worried I was a horrible person. Thankyou for all your help 🙂

aww yay, so happy that you both talked it out and got some clarity around it. @Tarmac_6 it's very clear that you have a big heart and care heaps, you're no way close to a horrible person!! i get that the anxiety brain does make it hard to remember that though. happy i could help, always here for ya 💙