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Fiance lusting other women

Chrissie23New Contributor28 May 2025, 1:18 am AEST

Fiance lusting other women

Hi everyone, I need your help. I grew in a domestic violent environmeny. I grew up with symptoms of depression and anxiety. I do not have the money to afford a psychiatrist to diagnose me. Growing up, i never had a good relationship with my family so i always used to look upto to my partner or fiance. Recently found out that he was lusting over women. He was actually doing this for years. He loves me alot but at the same time this is his addiction. When i called out once. He told me i was insecure. He apologised alot but i cannot get over this. I feel heartbroken and difficult to move on this time. Can you pls help me with some advice.

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In response to: Fiance lusting other women

Ru-beeModerator28 May 2025, 3:56 pm AEST

Re: Fiance lusting other women

Hello and welcome @Chrissie23

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's completely understandable that this would be so difficult to move past. As you've described your partner as being such a stable figure in your life, to learn that he was hiding this behaviour from you would be very hard to come to terms with. And to hear that he called you insecure, while doing something that actively undermines any security that you have built in the relationship.

Do you think that this is something that you can move, or want to move past? Would your fiance be willing to speak to a counsellor to work on rebuilding that trust and sense of security?

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