Intense feelings - BPD?

I have BPD and I can relate to what you are sharing. For me, the idea of anyone 'invading' my personal space was seen as a threat. It didn't mean I had feelings for the other person, but it was mroe about feeling left out, rejected and abandoned by them @Spiraling

Hence the emotional roller coaster prevailed.

For me, a lot of the work was around targeted talking therapy to work with the emotional dysregulation. Do you have a professional you can speak to about what you are experiencing?

Also, is there an option for you and your partner to live together without having an additional person?

Thank-you for letting me know your experience, that's exactly what I'm going through. I see my psychologist on Tuesday. And my partner & I are planning to pack up & go travelling together, so I hope I get through ok until things can settle down and I have my safe place to be.

I look forward to hearing how you go @Spiraling . All the best with your trip. Would you consider speaking to him about how you are feeling? @Spiraling

One thing about BPD is to work on effective communication. For me, when I was heightened or upset, communciation was pretty much non-existent. I had to work really really hard to practice communicating when things were tough so that people would know what was going on for me.

Another important thing is boundary-setting. I used to make others set boundaries, but through my recovery, I learnt that I was the one who also had to set boundaries for myself.

Take care, and hope to hear from you soon.

Feel free to tag me into your posts by typing "@" in front of my name e.g. @tyme . That way, I'll get a notification of your post.

When things start to escalate, take deep deep breaths. It can really help ground you @Spiraling

I'm so glad everything as been smooth.

For me, as a borderline, I'm mindful things can flip very quickly too.

I look forward to hearing how things go. Hope the counselling session helps. Sometimes, I find that writing things down to talk to the counsellor about can be helpful too.

How are you going @Spiraling ?

Do you think you want to speak to someone about whether you do have BPD? @Spiraling

For me, what was helpful about the diagnosis was to get targeted therapy. What was not helpful was the stigma behind it. So many times, when therapist see BPD, they seem to be dismissive.

All the best with your appointment tomorrow.

Absolutely @Spiraling .

We're here for you to support you. So glad you are doing what you can to better yourself. I can be so hard sometimes, but all the best with things tomorrow. 🙂