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Managing long term burnout

Elusive_fairyContributor25 Mar 2025, 3:16 pm AEDT

Managing long term burnout

I would love to hear from anyone who has gone through this!

Ever since 2023 I have been so insanely burnt out, that I can't bring myself to do much more than work and sometimes video games. I'm pretty sure living back home is a big part of it, because having my own place seemed to really help with independence. It's like I just felt free, with plenty of opportunities. Living in my childhood suburb is so deeply uncomfortable, and it's not as easy to travel without a car. I'm so tired of the monotony. It's like I'm stuck here and can't get myself to do anything. Desperately need another job and to just move on with my life.

Why am I still mourning a time that is well and truly over? Everything and everyone is different, but I cling to who I used to be. Unfortunately, I could only handle so much stress and loss, and have been burnt out ever since. Despite all the self improvements, it's like a part of me is missing. Even though some things are really good now, and I'm stable most of the time, I feel so detached from where I should be. Really hoping this year I finally move out and just live. Just want to let go! And to stop feeling frozen in time.

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor25 Mar 2025, 3:38 pm AEDT

Re: Managing long term burnout

Hello @Elusive_fairy, I hear how much you are burnt out at the moment. It sounds like having your own place really gave you that sense of independence and that space to be yourself. Sometimes being back in our childhood places can bring back memories both good and bad and that can be very overwhelming.

Have you thought about getting some support while you have been feeling this way? Sometimes having someone to talk to can be really helpful.

You are not alone here and we are always happy to help however we can. I'm happy to chat if you'd like to. Take care of yourself and I hope things improve for you soon ❤️

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balance37Senior Contributor26 Mar 2025, 6:04 pm AEDT

Re: Managing long term burnout

@Elusive_fairy Really liking @MissGremlin 's advice

Also wondering if you might be able to take on less hours at work, which would allow you to have a bit more personal time and/or look for a job that you would prefer? Not sure if that's a possibility for your situation, just putting a thought out there. 😊

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heera72Senior Contributor27 Mar 2025, 8:08 pm AEDT

Re: Managing long term burnout

Prioritizing small, manageable steps toward change can help you regain momentum and move forward. You are not alone, and it's completely valid.

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sunnydays1Contributor28 Mar 2025, 1:17 pm AEDT

Re: Managing long term burnout

I can relate to some of your feelings, I'm probably older than you though.
My partner is in care now, we moved a long way from our previous home some years ago and I have made no close friends here.
Small town, isolated and it feels like a different planet to the part of Australia I lived in before.
I don't drive and am very stuck, lots of grief and trauma.
I have realised i also have "environmental grief"after reading a well researched page on Griefline's website.
Having my dogs as company keeps me alive.
My working life is probably over.
Please focus on the good times, you will have more.
Sending love and support.

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Elusive_fairyContributor12 Sept 2025, 5:19 pm AEST

Re: Managing long term burnout

I know this was a while ago, but really relate. Environmental grief is a real thing. It feels like I'm not over being forced out of my first independent living situation. I'm now unable to move in with my partner and really just spiralling. I don't drive either, despite having my license. It is isolating for sure. The grief and trauma really can drag you down sometimes. I'm sorry you've felt similar. Cats keep me going.

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