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AnuNew Contributor
I microcheated on my partner. I cant forgive myself. I dont know what to do . She knows. Shes disgusted by me . I smoked a lot of cannabis that’s numbed nd got ne into this behaviour but ive been sober the past few weeks. I want to get her back but i dont know how. Ive been showing tendancies and having thoughts of self harm. I dont wanna feel this way . I cant laugh smile eat sleep cry sing or play my guitar anymore.
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tacocatSenior Contributor
Hi @Anu
Welcome to the forums, and thanks for sharing.
Sorry to hear you're going through such a rough time. I went through a nasty break up about a year ago, and it took a very long time until I started feeling normal again. That doesn't help you feel better now, but at least some hope that this will pass and get better with time.
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tymeModerator
Hi there @Anu ,
We have all made mistakes that we are not necessarily proud of.
Yet I can see how much this has impacted you. Would you consider speaking to a professional about it? If you continue to feel so low, it may be worth speaking to your GP.
You are not alone.
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