Is this behaviour appropriate? Advice needed.

@The-red-centaur i think if it was a once off thing that they were upset and just had an off day then that's not a reason for concern. However if it's been happening on multiple occasions then it's something that needs to be raised and addressed.

If you aren't feeling supported like you are supposed to then it's having an impact on their work ability which is then leaving you vulnerable. You are meant to be their focus and it's their job to make sure you receive the care you need regardless of what's happening in their personal life.

I would speak to your house manager and just let them know what's going on. They may just need someone to talk to themselves or a little break to be able to refocus on what their role is in this job.

Hey @The-red-centaur I second @Former-Member's thoughts here in letting your house manager know what's going on. While everyone's human and we all have times where our emotions get the best of us in the wrong situations, your support worker does still have a responsibility to recognise when they're struggling and reach out to their supervisor or manager for support before it gets to this point.

It's lovely that you can be empathetic and understanding that they're going through something, and perhaps you can mention it to your house manager in an empathetic way by expressing your concern, rather than as a complaint.

@Ru-bee @Former-Member thank you for the input.

It's not just the once that this person brought their personal life to work. I can see how upset and stressed they are at the moment. I am concerned for them, but at the same time I understand that this is not appropriate behaviour for a support worker.

Her stress has been impacting her ability to work properly. I feel for her. But I know that I need better care than that. I find it hard to put my needs first at the best of times. And tbh I have other things to deal with than support workers issues.

I will talk to my house manager, even see if the company can do anything to support the worker at this time. I don't like dobbing people in, but she might need some help and support at this time.

@The-red-centaur that sounds like the best thing as it sounds like they are really struggling and could do with some support themselves.

You definitely need to make sure your needs are being met. I really hope they listen to your concerns so this worker can get help so that they can be more focused on their job of taking care of you. Or potentially give you another worker while that one takes a break. I'm not really sure how it works but I hope it all works out for you.

@Former-Member thank you for the input.

Hi @The-red-centaur . I, when my mental health allows, work as a disability Support Worker. My main client has multiple disabilities and is also on 24/7 care 2:1.

I am really sorry to hear that you are having this issue. I also agree that some workers should not be in the industry. The job, when done properly, is hard work but very rewarding. I love my job.

I agree with previous comments. If the Carer was having a " one off " bad day, then that's fine. But if it's becoming a habit, it's not ok. As a support worker, your job is to meet the clients needs and assist them with their goals. Not to stress them or not provide the appropriate level of care.

You are absolutely in the right to have her behavior discussed with someone. It is your plan, your home, your daily life that is being affected.

I hope this gets sorted out quickly for you.