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MlwContributor
Hi,
How do you find hope qnd purpose to keep going when you feel so defeated.
Its like I'm constantly stuck in my thoughts, and alone. I can't find words to express it.
When I'm around others I completely disassociate,
Ita liks I'm a person who is good for nothing other then to be hurt, abandoned or abused
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J22ACasual Contributor
I just signed up to saneforums because I have been searching for physical support groups and can’t find any. Your question was the first I read and goodness it hits home. I feel the dissociation when around others and ive put myself in an invisible bubble. One thing I have tried which is small so only takes little effort, is manifesting. I picked up a small notebook and keep it in my bad. I try to use it when im feeling ok to increase that feeling and keep it going for longer. I write simple things. Mostly I write “I am Happy” over and over and over and hope that my brain rewires itself back into that belief.
Its tough, I had always considered myself confident and content. And then one day I met someone who changed my whole self. My self image. My confidence. My decision making skills. My desire to see friends and family. All gone. Just like that. In a matter of 2/3 years.
I hope the little book gives you some small steps towards recovery.
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MitzibelleNew Contributor
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Mum1923Casual Contributor
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tymeModerator
Welcome everyone here @Mum1923 @Mlw @Mitzibelle @J22A 🙂
Great to have you with us.
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Mum1923Casual Contributor
Thank you for having me .
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optik99Contributor
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tymeModerator
Hi there @optik99 @Mlw @Mum1923 @Mitzibelle @J22A ,
We are in the middle of yet another week. How is everyone travelling so far this week?
For the first time in a while, the sun was out (but of course it turned a bit blustery later).
Hope you are all okay.
I'm here if you need a chat!
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optik99Contributor
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MlwContributor
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-DarkHadesContributor
Hey @Mlw,
I'm going though this thought process as well lately and I hate it to be honest.
I feel like lately I'm walking through like as a shell and watching my life pass me by. It doesn't feel like I belong on this planet because everything is so MUCH.
It sounds really sad but even though I don't plan to unsubscribe from my life subscription I made a safety plan. I think of it as "life insurance" it's there just in case something happens, someone else finds me down in the dumps, or someone else is down in the dumps. BEST case scenario you don't need it(which is what we all hope for).
I also try to appreciate the beauty in nature so that I don't feel like I'm lost in the circle of life that is the planet. I look at the trees and think how beautiful that green is or how beautiful the clouds are & how I wish I could sleep in them.
I feel so out of place on this planet and around people but nature's never makes me feel out of place because everywhere I look there is something different and yet that is beautiful. Difference in nature is seen as beautiful and worth taking a picture of. 🩶
Nature doesn't punish us for looking different, sounding different, or liking different music.
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