Bipolar Major Depressive Episode - Should I call his psychiatrist?

Hi,

I posted last week that my BiPolar 2 Husband has been having a major depressive episode for about 3 weeks and he has never had one this bad before. He was diagnosed BP-2 at the beginning of the year and started taking medication. About a month ago his mood started going down hill until one day I came home from work and he was in a highly agitated/irritated state that lead to a full depressive episode. Not eating, sleeping, leaving the house, rarely talking and when he does it’s a grunt or an angry reply. He has opened up tonight that he doesn’t know what he is done with his life and that he has wasted his life. He said he just ‘can’t take the pain anymore’ and thinks about his cousin who committed suicide last year (undiagnosed BP). I’ve suggested we call his psychiatrist and get an urgent appointment as she can tweak medication and can help. However, he is very adamant that he doesn’t want to go back to any doctors or psychologists because they embarrass him and make him feel ashamed for being such a freak (not the case at all). He believes that the medication has caused this as he never had an episode like this before he was medicated. I suggested that I could call his psych trust and ask her for some advice but he said no that it’s embarrassing and shameful. Does anyone have any advice as to what I should do? He isn’t being rational, of course which is the depression. Should I call the psychiatrist and ask her for help myself without telling him? I have never seen him like this before and I am extremely worried.