BPD and major regression when ill

Hey @KittyKr, thank you for reaching out to the Forums and sharing your experiences with the community!

It sounds like you are going through a lot with being unwell and not getting the love and care from your husband that you expected the needed. Sometimes the people closest to us don't meet our needs and that can really hurt. I hope you recover from your flu soon and you feel better.

I'm sorry to hear that your husband spoke to you like that, and nobody deserves to be told that especially when you are unwell. If you are feeling unsafe or like you need support with your relationship there are people you can speak with, and I'll just pop a support line here in case you want to chat with them: Home | 1800RESPECT.

It's ok to feel overwhelmed when you are unwell and need a bit more support. Please stay connected with your peers here on the Forums and continue to reach out when you feel like it.

Take care

RiverSeal

The way you husband spoke to you is not ok and it's no wonder you feel the way you do. Maybe your rea tion is telling you something

It’s completely normal to feel more vulnerable when you’re sick. Illness can bring out a lot of old feelings and make us crave comfort and love, just like when we were kids. It’s okay to feel like this; many people experience something similar.

When it comes to staying stable and not regressing too much, here are a few tips:

1. **Self-Compassion**: Allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling without judgment. It’s okay to want comfort when you’re not feeling well.

2. **Routine**: Try to maintain a simple routine, even if it’s just getting out of bed, showering, and eating something nourishing.

3. **Mindfulness**: Practice mindfulness or grounding techniques to help keep you in the present moment, rather than getting lost in past emotions.

4. **Ask for Support**: Don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you trust. Sometimes just hearing a caring voice can help.

5. **Small Comforts**: Surround yourself with small comforts, like a favorite blanket, soothing music, or a warm drink.

6. **Remind Yourself**: This is temporary. Both the illness and the feelings that come with it will pass.

Take care of yourself, and know that it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. You’re not alone in this.

Hey @KittyKr ,

I'm hearing you. I'm sorry things have escalated and you feel you have regressed.

I have BPD, and I want to share my experiences if that's okay.

I just want to say that what you have shared is totally normal. It may not necessarily mean you have regressed. If anyone shouted at me to shut tf up while I was already feeling vulnerable (sick with the flu), I'd be crying too. This does not necessarily mean you have regressed. Remember, humans have feelings, even if we don't have BPD.

What I found is that when someone is unwell, they are more vulnerable to environmental triggers.

Remember, you have been doing so well with your therapist. Try considering how far you have come!

Allow yourself to heal know that you are not 'wrong'.

My heart goes out to you.

Hugs, tyme

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Hi @KittyKr @SHAZZA1234 ,

How are you both going?

Hope you are okay and that we will hear from you soon if you feel up to it.