so lonely it hurts

Hey @sevenlemon

Welcome to the forums! I can really relate to your post. I have 2 friends as well. I have been doing a few things to try to make friends. I started volunteering with an organisation. I joined the local mental health activities group. I joined the Sydney chapter of Strong and Social on Meetup. They don't have any groups near me but they do have a few online groups. I think the biggest challenge in finding out about what groups you can join is knowing that they exist. Are you at all interested in finding groups in your area? Do you think that is something that might help ease the loneliness? Are you in a metro or rural area? Also on this forum they run text based chat groups on Thursday and Sunday night which are great to come along to.

Hi @sevenlemon, I can definitely identify with the whole never hearing from anyone unless I message them! I get an answer, eventually, but then the cycle just repeats. It's so hard to keep doing without feeling like it's a 2 sided desire to keep in touch.

I can't think of much to advise other than what @Ainjoule has already suggested. I know the pain of loneliness and wouldn't wish it upon anyone so I really hope you can find someone to have that coffee with soon.

I feel your pain.its not right that your ex runs you down.as I keep getting told life does get better don’t no when and don’t no how I’m still working on that part

Hey @sevenlemon,

I am really saddened to hear the pain you're expressing from your loneliness 🙏 I think a lot of us can resonate with this feeling of at different times.

I have to echo similar to what @Ainjoule has suggested because a year ago I didn't really have single friend, but now I have a very supportive friend group through getting involved in volunteering and sports.

Is there anything you can think of you might like to join to meet people?

Hi @sevenlemon welcome to the forum. Do you have any pets? You are not alone here. You can share anything and many people are here to hold hands with you.