New realisation

@The-red-centaur it is a horrible and despicable action to manipulate, groom or coerce any person.

It is outright ABUSE.

None of it is your fault @The-red-centaur

That person’s actions are their responsibility, not yours.

You have every right to feel very sad and furious.

The fact that you can see this person treatment of you as abuse, is evidence that you have made progress in your MH journey.

I’m proud of you.

BIG hugs G

Hello @The-red-centaur,

Thank you very much for sharing, and I am so sorry to read about what has happened to you.

As mentioned by @Glisten, that persons' actions have been absolutely despicable and not only is none of this your fault, but you have every right to feel upset and angry.

I believe you made the right decision in putting yourself first and cutting them out of your life. You should feel proud of yourself for taking that step and for reaching out here on the Forum, that takes courage.

That's good that you're seeing people today, but I'm sorry that you feel scared.

If you feel you need to speak to someone outside your support circle, I highly recommend 1800 RESPECT (https://www.1800respect.org.au/) who are available 24/7.

I hope that you can find the support that you are looking for and hope to hear from you soon.

Try to be kind to yourself and take care.

So sorry that that abuse happened to you, @The-red-centaur 😭

Morning @The-red-centaur

So very proud of you for having the strength to carry on and get rid of this person from your life. You have every right to be feel angry and used, but can I say he is but one person, grant it a despicable one, and that you shouldn't wall yourself off from the companionship and mateship that true friends offer. Yes, you have to be wary and look out for yourself, but you are a strong person and you deserve to be happy, so enjoy your friends and what they have to offer................Asgard

Thanks everyone.

I had a bad weekend. I couldn't deal with it and hurt myself pretty bad Saturday. It could have been worse I guess.

I am trying ti focus on other things. I don't have to he define by my traumas anymore. Sigh it just hard.

Not a problem at all, @The-red-centaur,

I'm sorry to see that you had a rough weekend, how are you going today?

I think it's a good strategy to try to shift your focus when you're not feeling the best or are overthinking certain things. Whilst being mindful to not avoid or bury any of the trauma, but to not fixate on it and to face it when we are in the right headspace and can safely do so. And yes that's such a beautiful way to put it, we are all so much more than the trauma we carry.

I hope that today is better for you… and remember, when you feel that you're not safe and are thinking about thoughts of self harm or suicide, Lifeline (https://www.lifeline.org.au/) is available 24/7 via phone, online chat and text. And if it is an emergency contact 000.

Be kind to yourself and take care 🧡

@defaultusername thanks.

I am doing ok I guess. I admitted myself to the psych ward for the weekend. I have other stuff going I can't really express or talk about.

I'm trying to stay positive. I start tafe on monday. I feel overwhelmed by the past, but I want to shift my focus to my future.

That's really good that you sought help and were in a safe space, that shows a lot of strength @The-red-centaur.

I think that's a great way to look at things, as overwhelming as our pasts can be — looking forward can be a wonderful way to shift our thinking and create healthier habits, as well as helping us to foster a sense of hope… Which is a beautiful thing.

Studying and volunteering really helps me remain positive and excited about the future.

Wishing you all the best with TAFE next week!