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Bye Dad :-(

DeterminedSenior Contributor

Bye Dad :-(

Just a brief little vent,

We lost my father-in-law yesterday.

I have been supporting Dad since mum passed 5 years ago,
For the past 18 months since transitioning to age care, advocating and visiting daily.
Now feeling lost p*$$3d off and angry, about what I don't know.

Trying to hold it together for my darling who struggles to hold it together on a good day. And for our 3 boys.

We have some amazing supports around us though so most grateful for that.
And Dads transition to passing was peaceful and mercifully brief so grateful for that also.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Hey @Determined

so sorry you lost your father in law.

Guessing you are under lots of strain.

Good to see you.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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I lost my Dad 19 years ago, taking nothing away from my own Dad,
Dad(in-law) has been like a Dad to me for more than 25 years.
So blessed to have had him and mum-in-law in my life.

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tymeModerator

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Hugs @Determined ,

My sincere condolences for your loss. I'm sorry to hear how difficult things are at the moment. You have every right to feel angry and upset.

Please know we are thinking of you, upholding you and sitting with you.

@Appleblossom @Shaz51

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Ohh @Determined

Soo sorry about your news , sending you lots of understanding hugs my friend 🧡

Sitting with you 💕 and how is your wife and 3 boys ?

@Zoe7 , @Faith-and-Hope , @Snowie

@Appleblossom , @tyme

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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So sorry for your loss @Determined ….. go gently on yourself. The feelings will roller-coaster all over the place, and anger is one of them. So glad for the positives you can see, but loss is loss, and with so much else to deal with daily it can seem so unfair, even if that is illogical.
Peace be with you ….. 🤍🌹

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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@Shaz51

Darling and 3 boys are holding together ok at the moment.

S3 (8yo) has been remarkably mature and such a joy and encouragement.

He has had moments of tears but has also a remarkable faith based outlook on life with out his Pa.

Other than that it is like we are all holding our breath at least until the funeral.

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tymeModerator

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We are here for you @Determined .

Your strength and resilience shine through.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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♥️ @Determined

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Hope2RecoverySenior Contributor

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I'm so sorry for your loss @Determined sending you lots of love and happiness ❤️ take care.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

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Said goodbye to Dad on Friday

A nice tribute to an amazing man.

He will be sooo missed.

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