SillyGooseSaysNew Contributor
Cutting out Family Members
My husband and I are in the complex process of cutting out his mother. His mother is Biploar and Borderline. Like a frog in a boiling pot, we didn't really notice how far past the line of acceptable her behaviour was and kept excusing it due to her mental illness and tolerating her in our lives for the sake of her being family. Now she's done too much damage, we are trying to cut her out of our lives, but his mother has done everything possible to her to impact our lives negatively and punish us for cutting her out.
While it is all impacting me greatly, my husband is not coping as well and is really depressed and anxious and is having a really hard time not responding to calls and texts and emails from his mother and I think he is really affecting himself by regularly "getting back on that rollercoaster" everytime he speaks to her.
The whole constant rollercoaster of emotions is impacting our daily lives, moods and performance at work and our studies. I am trying everything I know to support him and reading about cutting family off and how that is a trauma for people in itself. I would love more recommendations on books on cutting off family and would love to hear people's personal experiences on how they have felt and coped with the experience of cutting someone out.
I am also looking for other things, maybe a support group meeting in Sydney, Australia for people with BPD family members or family estrangements. As we don't want to talk to our friends, I think it would really help if we could talk to other people living through the same thing. My husband feels really alone right now.
