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Oh wow @Patticake so much on your plate!

I'm sorry to hear things are so tough with your son, and having lost your husband would make it so much harder. I don't have much in the way of advice, but I will tag @BPDSurvivor who could maybe chat to you about ways to support a loved one who has BPD.

Sending some hugs your way 🫂

I am not sure if I am posting correctly. This should be a follow up from my first post.I have a real problem discussing things with my family member in case he becomes annoyed or more depressed but there are things I need to say to him about his life. How do I approach that? He is in his 40s.

Hey @Patticake you got it right! It's appeared at the bottom of your original post 😉

Hmm it's really hard to approach big conversations like that isn't it? I totally feel you - in fact I am currently procrastinating a big conversation in my own life... It really wracks the nerves!

I find it super helpful to write things down first. I will often do two drafts - one where I simply pour all of my emotions out, completely rough, and not even trying to think about how the other person might react. This helps me to reflect a little on how I feel and gives me a chance to think more deeply about what I actually want to get out of the conversation. The second draft is where I try to narrow things down, and put it into bullet points which I usually end up referring back to during the conversation.

I dunno if it would be helpful or not but this article about conflict resolution could be a good resource to take a peek at too.