john74Senior Contributor
Despair due to relationship breakdown
Hi l had recently entered into a relationship and moved in with a lady but just this morning she told me it was over after only 3 months. I don't know what to do
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john74Senior Contributor
Hi l had recently entered into a relationship and moved in with a lady but just this morning she told me it was over after only 3 months. I don't know what to do
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tymeModerator
Hey @john74 ,
I'm sorry to hear about what has happened. It sounds like you have a lot happening for you in life, and now to be told that this new relationship is over.
Do you think she would be open to talking it through?
We hope you feel supported here on the forums.
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john74Senior Contributor
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tymeModerator
@john74 ,
Do you know about SANE's Guided Service? https://www.sane.org/referral I wonder if this would be a service you are eligible and interested in if you are not part of it already?
We are here to support you.
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Dear @john74
You have done a good action in caring for your thoughts.
We keep our forums user friendly for vulnerable people.
Are you safe tonight ?
Would you like to talk?
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ParzivalSenior Contributor
@john74 I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling lost. Understandably you must be upset and confused, which is valid. My partner left me after one year last December, so I understand the emotions you might be feeling right now. Reaching out for help is a good step, try connecting to others in your life such as family, friends etc where you can. Take care of yourself and be safe
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john74Senior Contributor
Hi @PeppyPatti l need to talk to someone l am so down
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john74Senior Contributor
Hi @Parzival l am feeling terrible and unfortunately l don't have any family l am in contact with due to my marriage breakdown in late 2022.l was just beginning to be able to trust people again and this happens and its very awkward because we moved in together and she assured me everything was OK but now she is only here the minimum time to sleep doesn't even speak.
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PeppyPattiSenior Contributor
Hi @john74
Do you feel safe ?
This is the most important thing.
Are you able to make an appointment with a GP ?
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john74Senior Contributor
Hi @PeppyPatti l am hurting very badly she had previously invited me to go camping with her now l m told lm not allowed to which hurts . I don't know whether to move out or not or just have space. My gp is some distance away so not easy to see short term.
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john74Senior Contributor
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