Borderline meltdown

I started trying something when I had flare-ups so I didn't end up lashing out as much, and that was to put on angry music with headphones and just start furiously doing housework. It took a while to get into that habit but i found then while i would still feel awful during, afterwards I felt proud of myself for being able to not destroy or sabotage anything, and instead do some good. Its not a silver bullet and it took me a lot of time, but has improved things for me. I know what its like to feel in the throes of the storm and that nothing will slow or calm it, and its an awful feeling. If you try this and it doesn't work for you, please don't beat yourself up, we are all different. Just please know that you aren't alone.

Hi there!, Borderline personality disorder can be extremely exhausting to manage, even more so when you’re dealing with various triggers.
Have you tried any strategies to help you self-regulate recently?.
Here are a few TIPPS and tricks I would recommend:

T: temperature, fill a bowl with cold water and ice, dunk your face in the water for 30 seconds and release. Repeat as needed. You can also do this with ice cubes in your hand.
I: Intense exercise, go for a run, brisk walk or do some vacuuming. I’m not always able to leave my house to go for a run so I find cleaning really helps!.
P: Paced breathing, breathe deep down into your belly, slow your pace inhaling and exhaling, about 6 breaths per minute, breathe out more slowly than you breathe in.
P: Paired muscle relaxation, while you’re focusing on your breathing, notice where you are feeling tense within your body, start from your head and work all the way down to your toes, breathing through the tension and releasing. I like to use guided meditations on YouTube.
And most of all, validate your experience, living with BPD is tough, there’s a reason why certain events have caused you such distress, unpack that emotion, validate it and accept that it is understandable why you would have the reaction to certain events, given your circumstances.
Please be kind to yourself ❤️

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Hey @PhoebePhoenix you're definitely not alone, BPD is tough and using alcohol as a coping strategy is not uncommon. As you've mentioned it's unhelpful and becomes another problem to deal with. Would you consider an AA group in your area? You'll get there, the first step is the hardest and you're already doing that and being so brave reaching out for support. Fingers crossed you hear back soon and have some supports in place. Take care 💝