BPD book club

Hey @Chook_,

I've read them both. All I can say is that I could relate to the books very much. However, in terms of strategies, I was a little disappointed that the books focussed on all the 'terrible' things that accompanied BPD, rather than shed light on the qualities of people with BPD

I finished off reading thinking, "Yes, I know I have all these issues... now what?"

I'm interested to hear your thoughts @Chook_

@tyme I have not read “yes I know I have all these issues now what” was it any good?

I hate you don’t leave me- I found this very interesting and educational as I initially started reading this when I was just beginning my journey learning about bpd.
I agree that both books don’t talking about any of the positives, I do really like the UP SET conversation style, it has helped me in many situations both at home with my partner and at school dealing with heightened children.

Hey @Chook_ ,

That was not the name of the book.

I meant, that after I finished reading the two books you mentioned, i was left thinking, "I have all these issues.. now what?"

Hope that makes it clearer. Sorry I wasn't clear the first time 🙂

Happy reading!

Hahaha no my bad , now that I reread that message it makes sense. It’s been a big day. @tyme

Hi @Chook_ - I haven't read the book you're talking about because I absolutely hated the title and the blurb. I think it's really difficult to find books or media about BPD that is helpful, informative and doesn't paint us as villains.

Have you heard of the holistic psychologist ? She is on instagram and also has books which I've enjoyed! Also looks into the vagus system has been really helpful for me understanding my bodies response to things!

@Jasper_123 thanks for your reply.

My partner said the same thing about both of the titles, I don’t recommend Walking on eggshells for someone with BPD to read, it could absolutely be triggering. I do think it was good (for me) as a carer in being able to understand BPD more and help me to put boundaries in place/ care for myself as much as I care for my partner.

I hate you don’t leave me- also a shitty title but my partner did find parts of that book helpful, he didn’t like seeing the cover of the book initially but has since read most of it.

And I do follow the holistic psychologist, she has some great posts and resources.

I think walking on eggshells is a terrie book for carers and suffers of bpd.

I don't recommend that book for those trying g to support people with bpd

I've read it @EternalFlower @Chook_ @Jasper_123 . I found it comforting and a bit of an 'ah-ha' moment for those who are carers of someone with BPD. However, from a BPD perspective, I didn't find it helpful.

I guess if depends on what you are looking to get from the book.

Hope you are all okay.

I find it really stigmatising personally but I am not a carer for someone with bpd I am just someone with a personality disorder

My abusive parents used that book to try and stigmatise me and it puts a lot of judgement as if bpd makes someone manipulative and difficult

I haven't read much that was helpful.about bpd

Sorry I wandered here as this is more for carers but the bpd bookclub title seemed like it was open to people with bpd to engage, but the diauxssion seems more for carers of people with bpd. Maybe we can indicate that in the title so others like me don't come here