I love you just the WEIGH you are.

I have a complex relationship with weight.

I mean not really. The thing is, I am moderately overweight. I don’t think that’s a big deal. But it’s becoming more of an obstacle than it should be.

My sister asked me, “if you’re so serious about having children, why don’t you lose weight?” I just don’t think being the way I am now is a bad thing.

I remember a quote from EB White:

We teach our child many things I don’t believe in, and almost nothing I do believe in. We teach punctuality, particularly if the enforcement of it disturbs the peace. My father taught me, by example, that the greatest defeat in life was to miss a train. Only after many years did I learn that an escaping train carries away with it nothing vital to my health...

Who cares if you miss a train? Are you a decent person, do you contribute to society? Your lack of punctuality doesn’t matter, and your weight doesn’t really matter. I mean within reason. Is it affecting other areas of your life?

What people say is, “if being moderately overweight is no big deal, then conversely, losing it should be no big deal either.”

I had this conversation with a colleague once at a party. I was talking to her about how I haven’t really been in relationships and I explained how people thought it had to do with my weight. She nodded along and then all of a sudden, something I said must have resonated. She said “you know what, I dealt with the exact same thing growing up”. She talked about how she was significantly overweight, and she thought the same thing. “People should be thinking about my personality, they should be attracted to who I am, not just focusing on my weight.”

She didn’t really provide an easy answer, but she did say that when she lost weight, things started to happen for her. And that also gave her the confidence to recognise when people were attracted for her JUST for her losing the weight, and gave her the confidence to reject them.

It sucks, it’s a sad reality… it shouldn’t matter, but it does.

But the thing is, losing weight would give you the best opportunity. The opportunity you probably deserve. Weight or no weight, why not make it a little bit easier for yourself?

I still haven’t 100% gotten my head around it, but that conversation stuck with me. I am open to paying more attention to my weight. Just because it would help to eliminate that variable.