Rob33New Contributor
Is it me or my relationship
When I’m feeling that things aren’t ok… I often blame my relationship and what I’m not getting from it. But then I think, is it me and my BPD that is causing the issue. How do I seperate the two?
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Rob33New Contributor
When I’m feeling that things aren’t ok… I often blame my relationship and what I’m not getting from it. But then I think, is it me and my BPD that is causing the issue. How do I seperate the two?
In response to: Is it me or my relationship
Jenny11New Contributor
Hello,
Each day is a new day.
There are 2 of you in the relationship.
I have found that by having a daily program of self love, self care and gratitude it sets me up for the day.
This allows me to see where my head and body are at and where I may need to communicate to my partner that I need a bit of space or that am on edge and may explode so bear with me.
A focus on the spiritual journey allows for my connection to something bigger than me and any disorder or disease.
Focus on what you can do.
Focus on gratitude what your partner does for you that you like and let them know and you'll get more of it.
Thank you
Thank you Thank you
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JynxModerator
Hey @Jenny11 and @Rob33 welcome!
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I think @Jenny11 is on the money with the reminder that it does take two to tango, and if it feels like you're not getting your needs met in the relationship it's worth a conversation. And through this, it could be a chance to explore whether there is some internal stuff at play too.
In response to: Is it me or my relationship
BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
I getcha @Rob33 . I had the same issue as a borderline. At first I blamed everyone else until I separated from everyone I knew, moved towns to a place where I no one knew me.
i thought, ‘super! That’s my answer!’
however, not long after, the same destructive patterns happened… and I (only I) was the common denominator…
only then did I realise I needed help.
The fact that you are reflecting on your life now in the way you have, makes you so much further than what I was. Good on you.
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