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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Anyone else feel guilty to talk about how growing up with a parent with MI have affected them emotionally. My mum isn’t a bad person, she is loving, but I’ve had moments when I felt scared by how strong her emotions were. I don’t burden her with my own MH because she already has a lot on her plate and I don’t want to trigger her because then it feels like my fault
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Kyle1Senior Contributor
there's a theory out there that this is how an anxious people pleaser is born...
I have similar experience @creative_writer
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Kyle1Senior Contributor
you might have heard of the poet, John donne @creative_writer ?
He wrote that "no man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main" ... or something like that. (The Persian mystic, Rumi, wrote a thousand things along the same lines...)
I happen to believe it true.
As humans (infact, nothing exists in isolation and entire of itself. Everything is conglomerant) we are wired to be a continent of connectivity. And if, indeed, we were but islands afterall, we would still yet be among an archipelago of others, belonging to the one ocean...
With that in mind, I'm not sure feelings of guilt should find a home in us because we have capacity to empathise...
We need to work on reframing this impression, because...when waves impress upon the sand, it is no more the fault of the shore line than it is the tide.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Kyle1Senior Contributor
in as far as your own mh is impacted @creative_writer a confidential therapeutic setting should be an appropriate environment inwhich to disclose relevant information...
Which is why it can be so important and beneficial if you do manage to find a professional inwhom you can depend and trust.
Are you happy with yours? Do you feel like they fit with you @creative_writer ?
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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