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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
Here, offline, everywhere
how do I do cause for some reason friendships never lasts long for me
i got my family they are my best friends but I want to talk to people easier
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
I dunno @ArraDreaming I struggle with it too.
I thought maybe listening was the answer, but its seems a combo of talk and listen that I dont5 have a talent for. It seems tricky to get that combo right with the right people. The forum has helped me tho. I keep practising ...lol
Eg Yesterday afternoon had a great deep, fun and honest sharing with 2 other women, but earlier a phone call with an uptight lady, who says she does not want to talk, or have "this conversation" but keeps making dismissive comments. I guess my learning, is that I will go with the flow of those who seem to enjoy my company and we get something out of it, and disentangle myself from the other lady, cos she is draining me and taking too much energy from me and I feel put down, rejected and not able to perform well around her now, but keep it together for another mutual friend ... weary sigh ... idk?
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Blackbird11Senior Contributor
Hi @ArraDreaming
Glad you're here. Tough question, I was told once to have friends you've got to learn how to be a friend first. I have had success with finding friends online and through activity groups and in my work place. I use active listening, ask questions and get curious about their interests. I be a safe person and show respect and compassion. Everyone is different and unique, you have your own strengths and guiding values.
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