Pain in the soul

I wanted to say that I am sorry that you are going through the difficult experience that you describe. I would feel extremely hurt in your situation. I don't think it's OK to search for escorts etc when you are in a committed relationship. I hope you can continue to plan to get out of the relationship, particularly since you wrote that you have been abused. Perhaps, by being so forgiving, you have put up with too much?

Hi @Bruna

You do not have to, and should not, tolerate this behaviour. This does not sound like a safe relationship and the things you have mentioned sound very much like domestic violence.

I have just searched for infornation for you and hope this helps. According to a quick read, to me it sounds like there is a good chance that our government will support you from an immigration standpoint, if you meet the right requirements.

I hope this helps. Please reach out to a local domestic violence service as they can organise accommodation etc and help you with any paperwork.

https://immi.homeaffairs.gov.au/visas/domestic-family-violence-and-your-visa/family-violence-provisions

Hi @Bruna

I'm so sorry to read about what you've been going through. No one deserves that and you ask valid questions as to why men do this to their female partners. It's horrid and we have such a problem with it here in Australia. It makes me sick to my stomach to see news' stories about domestic violence.

I'm glad you've reached out to the appropriate supports. Have you considered leaving the situation? I know how difficult this suggestion can be so please forgive me, but just wanted to check if this is an option for you.

I know there is the added challenge of you being relatively new to Australia. Do you have any friends you could stay with temporarily?

Take care

Hanami

Hi, I really appreciate you taking some of your time to try to help me in some way.
I don't want to bring more confusion to this story, because I have 2 children in the middle of this and even though my relationship with my partner is bad he is still the father of my children so somehow I will have to learn to adapt to this situation because it's impossible for me to just disappear from his life (I would really like to). In the case of this link that you kindly sent me, it seems to me that it would just help so that my permanent visa could be processed faster. But for this to happen I need to prove it and I would need to go through more humiliation during all this bureaucracy. I feel that this way the snowball would only grow without helping much with the necessary issues that I consider at the moment, which are help with my mental health after these traumatic events and also employment so that I have a chance of being able to pay for somewhere to I go live.
But again, I appreciate your intention.

Hi Hanami,

I think about leaving home all the time, but I can't because I'm financially dependent on him and because I have children, I need to make sure they're okay too.
I don't have friends, I came to live in Australia because of my partner and the people I met are related to him, like his family and his friends. I don't work so it's harder to make friends.
I thank you very much for your attention.

Hi, I don't want to look like a saint, because I also made mistakes in my relationship with him. But I never had eyes for another man when I was with him. This hurts too much and in my opinion it cannot be forgiven.

Thank you for your time.