all my friends left me

Relationship breakdowns if that’s what we would call it @Eden1919 are never easy. There is a process of grieving that we go through.
I’ve had a lot of very similar situations over the years. Not school friendships, I’ve never really stayed in contact with school mates, I’m 40 now. But over the last 10 yrs or so I’ve had friendships, built into them, spent time and energy trusting and letting walls down only for them to basically up and leave for no real reason. It hurts. You think you mean something to someone but obviously not.

I hope that you can work through the grieving process and that someone magical comes along and sees the good in you ❤️

Hi @Eden1919 . I think it's very common that people don't keep up with their high school friends. People go in different directions after high school.

It could be partly due to your MH issues I guess, but also partly not maybe? People don't know how to deal with MH issues, they may care but not know what to say, so don't say anything and the friendship drifts apart.

Sorry to hear, though.

@Eden1919 I had a friend who said she couldn't handle mental illness as her sister had bipolar. Yet she became a doctor and would be seeing lots of MI in her practice. I think she just wanted the prestige and status and I came between that. She was always talking about hanging out with "elites" and wanting to wear a white coat. Not many people are genuine and are just fair weather friends. At school I looked after her when she tipped a whole vat of cooking oil on herself working at KFC yet she couldn't even return the favor to care for me. Choose your friends wisely

@Eden1919 What do you think prompted the thought?

You are being very hard on yourself. School friendships rarely last outside school years.

It’s like cousins - you might be related, but do you have anything else in common and would you actually choose to hangout them?

Between the age 0 - 29 life changes a lot and your individual needs change.

I’ve kept in contact with 2 people from university. We’re FB friends not real “let’s hangout” friends.

What do you think makes a good friend?

@Bow thanks and sorry for the late reply.

@NatureLover @Glisten it isnt as simple as people move on from their school friends this was very sudden and unprovoked we didnt just drift apart naturally they were talking to me then all of a sudden one day they where ghosting me like i had never existed it wasnt a natural progression.

@Former-Member i am sorry you had that experience with your friend that must have hurt.

@Eden1919 There is no excuse for bad manners and you have every right to feel hurt. These are not the friends for you.

I made a list of requirements or core values I want in my friends, because I need to surround myself with people that have my best interests at heart. For me Boundaries make healthy relationships.

@Glisten yeah i thought i had set good boundaries before but i guess not it is just hard because it is like either there is something wrong with me or i am a terrible judge of character because i really thought they were good people who cared about me well i know now they didnt care about me but how did i get it so wrong for so long like i was friends with some of these people since early primary school idk i just feel confused and completely blindsided.

@Eden1919 Same and I spent months hating myself. Because the judgement call I made, left me penniless, homeless and hurt my family.

I thought I was intelligent, I’ve got a Degree. But here I am with identity loss.