Friend continues threatening s***ide

@BMAE Not an easy situation. She needs more help than a friendship should be obliged to give. I dont know whole circumstance.

"She now tells me when she ends her life it's because I have pushed her to do it. I feel emotionally manipulated, " That is so sad, but I would refer her to crisis lines and work on your self care and any necessary boundaries. We should not be obliged to do instant text.

Thank you so much for your reply! I have referred her to crisis lines and other support platforms multiple times and she has never accessed them. The more I try to enforce boundaries The more upset and hurtful she becomes. I don't want to ignore her as I know that triggers her from past traumas but I really don't know how else to handle the situation. I asked her to stop contact for a while and she continues to do so and today send flowers to my home. I appreciate that gesture but I can't have her believing that's all she needs to do for me to rekindle a very new friendship

Hi, thank you for asking!

I have made it *very* clear that these are the boundaries I have in my life, and she may not like them, but she must respect them. She was hurt and upset with that as I expected, but I have stayed strong with those boundaries, and I just have not been engaging when she attempts to cross them. I receive some pretty passive-aggressive messages daily, but I'm just reminding myself that I can't control people's responses or feelings, but I can control my own 😊

She is quite clearly still struggling with her depression/anxiety and I've spoken to her partner about helping her access the support but according to him, she won't 🤷‍♀️ I feel truly sorry for her but I know I also need to keep myself mentally healthy too .