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Giving to everyone else!

HeartSenior Contributor10 Nov 2016, 3:15 pm AEDT

Giving to everyone else!

It took me to get so far down that I thought I would never get up again to realise that I had to STOP giving my all to others. This is soooo scary when you don't know where to start.

I started, and it feel strange in a good way and bad way. I have aways put my need aside to be able to provide for everyone else. It took for me to harm myself before I realise I was so far down. This is a very big thing for me but I went and got a hair cut today. Something so simple can make you feel a little better about yourself. This arvo I am going to the dentist, this has not happened for I can't remember how long, all because I gave my all to everyone else.

I hope this give other the strenght to pick your self up, dust your self off and put your self first for once, take care of YOU because as I am learning, no one else will.

Not it is not easy but slowly with small goals it will happen.

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Unknown userMember10 Nov 2016, 4:30 pm AEDT

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Well done @Heart

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Unknown userMember11 Nov 2016, 9:29 am AEDT

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That is so great, you deserve it 🙂

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Unknown userMember11 Nov 2016, 11:01 pm AEDT

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hello heart

huge step a lot harder to do than it sounds. Be proud.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor12 Nov 2016, 1:50 pm AEDT

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That is great @Heart xx

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor12 Nov 2016, 2:58 pm AEDT

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Hi @Heart

I read on a site YESTERDAY that one of the common behaviours of sibling grief was "Compulsive care-giving". Not sure if it is relevant to you, but it made a lot of sense to me.

Take care of you.

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BlueBellsSenior Contributor13 Nov 2016, 12:32 am AEDT

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Hi @Heart 🙂

I am slowly learning that myself. I am trying to do "me things". Certainly not easy.

I am finding the more I do it, the better I feel, and the easier it becomes. All about valuing yourself.

I used to get tied in knots simply having a cuppa at a cafe, like I wasn't permitted to do it, because it was for me.

A year or so back, my counsellor said, "now, when you leave here, go to a cafe and have a cuppa and slowly enjoy it." I did, and it felt really good 😉

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Shaz51Senior Contributor13 Nov 2016, 12:39 pm AEDT

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Hello @BlueBells, @Heart, @Appleblossom, @Former-Member, @Former-Member xx

I am slowly learning that myself.as well it is taking me a while I am trying to do "me things". more and more

It is the same with me @BlueBells , ike I wasn't permitted to do it, because it was for me.

I was wondering if these feelings were from being mentally abused when i was little , but mum and I left as i was getting sicker and sicker and thinner when i was 12

It felt strange to do something for me xx

and it is the lovely people here on the Sane forum who have helped me so much , I still have a long way to go

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