Just don't know what to do anymore

Hi @Tufflife,

It must be really difficult currently for you. I have no marriage advice but was wondering if it is a good time for you to make such an important decision although I realise it's probably a catch 22 at the moment in that your mental health is probably suffering more under the strain and uncertainty. Have you had honest conversations with him? I was also wondering if it was worth trying relationship counselling if you think it's still possible to salvage your marriage.

Lastly do you have a counsellor to help you through with the depression and anxiety? That was essential for me during my break up. I needed my counsellor so much during that time and had a social worker as well to help with the logistics, I had kids and other complications as well.

I wish you well with whatever you chose. 💜😊

Hi @Tufflife,

I remember your situation now. I think you posted a while back. That's great you are seeing a counsellor again. It looks like you have tried every way to connect with him and he is rejecting every attempt which must be heartbreaking. Were you finding it better when you were apart?

I guess maybe there are some answers there then. If your mental health is bette without him and he is making no attempt to reconcile maybe it's time to look after you first. If you do leave though please please think carefully about how you do it in that you'll have property/items to separate. The last thing you would need is him changing the locks so you can't get your things if it came to that which it may not but you need to be careful, it happens. Is there anyone you can work this through with?

I think @Tufflife first step is to talk all this through with your counsellor. They may be able to help you find the resources and supports that you need. There are also services I'm sure in every state to help women. In my state it's called the Women's Information Service. They can direct you to help with this process too. For now though try not to stress. Try to find comfort in that you are seeking help and you can have faith that you will have a better life. I'm sorry your support is no longer there for you. Rest up a while now. Come back on when ever you need to talk. You are not alone with this. 💜😊