FORUMS

Connect with people who understand what you are going through, seek advice and surround yourself with support. We're free, anonymous, and professionally moderated 24/7.

  • 47,612Members
  • 1,358,869Posts
  • 1,400,000Visitors
Something’s not right

Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

Hi Friends Its LostAngel its been a long while since being online and things have been pretty busy doing study lately ect and life in general but anyway I have a value dilema situation and need to vent about it as most of you know I have an online partner well Im having a bit of conflict between my head and heart at the momment ,some of the issue is mine I find it so hard to tell him him I disagree with something whatever it is in general anyway without saying too much Im at a place where Im attached to him and obviously love and care for him but the problem is what do you do if your partner or someone close to you asks you to do something that may be against your values and how do you even start to express those emotions to them in words its a hard place to be in cause the fear is he may take it that I dont trust him but its not trust thats the issue its how will my expressing this feelings come across to him potenitionally ? sorry my typing not proper im kind of in a mid week slump in general but yes I guess Ill have to just tell him outright my concerns ,coincidently we will be talking on phone again soon so I need to gather my thoughts,I dont want him to feel that I dont trust him by telling him what he may not like to hear but then Im being dishonest if I dont share my concerns

3 replies

1 - 3 of 3

In response to: Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

Re: Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

Please be careful @LostAngel . As much as I would like the conversations to be genuine, I’m very much careful of those preying on those who are vulnerable.

Ive been duped into a online scam in the past, and it really set me back. For someone to promise the world, only to realise my emotions got the better of me and I realised I was in trouble.

Thank goodness things eventually got sorted, but I still have the pain and hole left in me - all because I’m online communication.

I’m not saying do it or don’t. I’m just saying to be careful.

Learn from my mistake so that hopefully you won’t make the same.

Don’t share your real name, last name, date of birth, bank details, passwords, apps you access, banks you are with etc. don’t even buy apple or Google gift cards for them. It can all lead to identity theft.

Please please be careful.

In response to: Re: Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

Re: Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

thank you so much @BPDSurvivor for your reply as this situation is messing with my mind /emotions currently ,the short answer is yes I unfortunetly have shared real name ,real phone number,real address,bank card,license ,internet account information ect which is why Im very concerned as to explain further he has ordered Iphones in my name using my details,optus is trying to ring me as they assume ive ordered it ,he claims hes sending these phones to my address to then get me to send them to Africa which I questioned about,worried about ect and now he wants me to send these phones to his address instead ,unfortunetly my heart and mind are saying two different things about this ,he didnt end up talking to me on the phone but does keep messaging me lovey dovey stuff and when I questioned him about sending things to africa he told me that means I dont trust him then ,also seemed out of character frustrated with me ,In all honesty I dont want the phones sent to my address but hes calmed me down so to speak but i am clearly indecisive about this ,I feel like sending the optus phone number to him for him to ring them instead ect about the order but know that hell bring up oh you dont trust me then if i do that any suggestions on what to do in short I do feel preasured to recieve the phones on his behalf but have also avoided answering the optus phone call ,i do kind of feel hes using me to buy the latest iphones but i dont know why ,Ive looked up about advice for scams and that its best to cease contact but i still feel attached so am still talking with him ,thanks for understanding friend

In response to: Re: Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

Re: Need a Safe Place To Vent /been a long while/What to do in a Values Dilema ?

and rereading all these yes ive unfortunetly shared my social media info,phone number,birth date,sent gift cards,bank info account info ,ect ect and the latest thing is my address,I have tried to get his birth date and address to verify that he lives in America though as a photo he recently sent me looked like it wasnt taken in america but in another country also i have found a second or third facebook account of his which he claims he doesnt have or use facebook and questions me as to why Im asking about that

1 - 3 of 3