Struggling to work out the marriage.

Hi @muskan

Welcome to the forums. I'm one of the peer workers here at SANE. It sounds like things are pretty rough for you right now. Are you able to just explain a little bit more about what's happening? Do you mean you don't know whether to go on with your marriage?

Warmest wishes

Hanami

Hey @muskan . I'm a bit of an attachment theory enthusiast. I've been really struck by how feelings of insecure attachment can wreak havoc on internal dialogue. It can be a really invisible disease but I think most of us know the feeling. I guess it's part of being social animals.

Thanks Hanami for your reply. Its been 2 years and all we have done till now majorly is just fighting. There has been so many fights and so many hateful words and so many blames on me that my personality has totally shrunk down. I dont feel love towards him anymore. I feel that he is just staying with me coz he doesn't wanna live alone. He has no interest in improving himself even a little. All he does is just keep blaming me, keep disrespecting me… i am so lost. I have gained weight in the last 2 years out of stress and depression and fear.

What can I do if I know that is him who needs to understand what the problem is and he is totally in denial for all the things

Oh @muskan

That sounds so tough. I can only imagine the heartache you must be feeling about everything. And the fact he is in denial makes you feel awful, I imagine...like it's all in your head. And I'm thinking counselling would be out if he's in denial too. I hope others can chime in with some wise words for you.

Sending hugs and keep reaching out,

Hanami

@muskan I just want to add this number for domestic violence support in case you feel unsafe. I hope you are safe but if not please reach out to this number.

Hugs

Hanami

https://www.1800respect.org.au/

Hi @muskan, how are you going this evening?

Sitting with you ❤️

Hey @muskan - sorry to hear things are not working so much. Have you ever gone to marriage counselling or something? Or maybe to work out what either party wants out of the marriage?

I hope you find space to love and look after yourself in this. I hear it can be so draining to have continuous fighting.